Can I discipline other people’s children? Please help my friend cope with his wife. Maternity pay reduced, employment lawyer needed. Best Indian takeaway?

Last Updated on : 13th April 2015
Dear NappyValleyNetter,“Hey mummy, now I know what O.C.D. is!”

If I’m entirely honest I wasn’t expecting my eldest to pipe up with this observation whilst I was tidying up the living room but, in my defence, I wasn’t entirely up to date with what had been going on behind the scenes.

It transpired my eldest had heard a reference to it on television (I can dream it was a BBC2 documentary but I suspect it was YouTube) when he’d asked Mr NVN what it meant.

As opposed to simply explaining the definition using words and perhaps an example, the technique employed by almost everyone else on the planet, my husband and son decided to conduct an experiment.

With me as the guinea pig.

“So we’ve been moving photos, vases and ornaments around for a week and seeing how long it takes you to move them back.” he said.

“It’s usually minutes,” he continued, “sometimes you don’t even know you’re shifting them back.”

“Is that why your bike was on the playhouse roof yesterday?” I asked. I couldn’t understand how it had ended up there and thought it odd at the time.

“Yeah, Daddy says that was a bit too obvious but I’m learning.”

I honestly don’t know what was more annoying, the fact I’d been the unwitting subject of their stupid experiment or the fact that they’d spent a week discussing the finer details of what would, or wouldn’t, trigger my tidy-up reflex.


Here is what you’ve been talking about on NappyValleyNet (Wandsworth):

Can I discipline other people's children?This could be a little controversial: ‘do you tell off other people’s children?’ asks AAD. He asked some in a cafe to stop kicking a sofa and received some very dirty looks from their adults…click here for details

Broken Dad has a friend living with a perimenopausal woman and asks if you have any advice on handling the mood swings? He writes that “as much as he enjoys 24 hour verbal combat he senses he may be flagging”…click here for details

Juliantenniscoach understands that both Dandelion and Harry’s Newsagent in Battersea are shutting for good at the end of their respective leases…click here for details

Tooting Lou wondered if anybody was leaflet dropped by Sadiq Khan on Easter Day/Holy Sunday? She was rather shocked to receive political propaganda whilst preparing an Easter Sunday lunch…click here for details

I really hope we can help with this query. Jemima123’s little girl has a sick bug with a totally raw bottom. She is in total agony as they have to keep changing nappy’s because she isn’t holding anything: any suggestions most welcome…click here for details

MTC asks ‘how do you get your little ones to not hurt themselves in their crib?’ Their nine month old gets super-active and sometimes hits his head on the headboard…click here for details

2Singingkettle asks has anyone used Milton to sterilise Dr Browns bottles? She’s read that it can fade the markings…click here for details

Oab is looking for recommendations for local homeopathy and/or reflexology. Who is Nappy Valley’s premier practitioner?…click here for details


ElFen needs an employment lawyer/HR professional as her company has changed their maternity policy without consultation, reducing the amount paid dramatically and she wants to know if they can do this?…click here for details

Moscow State Circus for a 3 yr old: Allybee33 asks if it’s a good idea? I suspect as long as they’re watching and not lion taming it should be fine but do any of you know for certain?…click here for details

Pod is about to embark on some classes for her twenty month daughter and wonders if anyone has any feedback on The Little Gym in Wandsworth?…click here for details

HDLondon needs recommendations for any upcoming nearly new sales?…click here for details

1cPilatesforposture is looking for a second hand glass aquarium with a lid. I am racking my brains to see how that might relate to Pilates but so far I’m stuck! Just like when I practice Pilates!…click here for details

The sun over the Easter weekend inspired Earlsfieldite to buy some outdoor toys so can anyone recommend a decent slide for a three year old?…click here for details

Poopy7 asks if anyone been on a family holiday to Asturias or Cantabria? She’s considering somewhere in either of these areas in August and wondering where the best places for children are (click here).

Sophshume is looking for a good drumming teacher. Oooh have you seen the Whiplash movie? Just don’t hire him! (click here).  Sophshume is also looking for a Mandarin teacher  (click here).  and Mummy_dani is looking for a native Spanish speaker to give weekly lessons to their children. Hola!…click here for details

Asknicky thinks it is time for to change their Indian take-way. Any ideas for the best Indian takeaway in Clapham South?…click here for details


Looking for a new challenge? We have more vacancies than Andy Murray has wedding presents!

DBI is looking for a senior hair stylist or beautician to manage a beauty salon (click here).  DavidThompson is a very busy local Financial Adviser searching for a clerical assistant on a part time basis (click here).  TheParentPractice need a part time office manager (click here).  HappyinSW18 WLTM someone special to join a team of two at a small property management company based in SW London (click here).  AmandaC is on the lookout for a childminder for their daughter (and potentially her little friend who is around the same age) from early June in Battersea (click here).


Searching for activity ideas? We have more than the new Mrs Kim Murray has confetti!

Brixton Acupuncture and Shiatsu Space are holding an “Open Day” (click here).  Yelena is a French Au Pair and would like to meet another for coffee/museums/walking (click here).  017hnoor wants to recommend a brilliant playgroup (click here).  Carosandyselmi is hosting a “well-being morning” in a month’s time and would like to know your opinions on when might be a good time to do this? (click here).  Saskia_gregory is a success coach specifically helping other ambitious modern mothers (click here).


Last week I wrote “School’s Out” was by Iggy Pop but it wasn’t, it was by Alice Cooper (thanks HG!)…

Kidsunlimited Wandsworth want to tell you that they’ve now had their “Outstanding” rating for six months, well done! (click here).  By the Beach recently applied for admission into the reception stream at Parkgate House, does anyone know the timescales to receive a confirmation letter? (click here).  Mum_business sells Yumboxes (the leakproof, nutritionally designed, lunchbox), they would love to help PTA’s fundraise (click here).


Finally, it’s your house and garden questions! We have more than Hillary Clinton has cardshops!

MNVN is gently exploring the idea of fitting solar power to their home and wonders if anyone else has tried? (click here).  JulieA’s kitchen needs to be refurbished and would like advice or recommendations as they have no idea where to start! (click here).  Chanchipolli has raised decking in their back garden and wants to convert the space below into storage? Good idea? (click here).  Newtoclapham is looking for a good plumber? (click here).  Steffie is planning a kitchen side return, loft extension and full renovation and wonders what is the best way to control the cost? (click here).  Art1234 needs recommendations for someone that can replace/repair some damaged/old fence panels (click here).  Adubs needs ideas for good carpet brands for the bedroom and any good suppliers in Balham?

 (click here).


Annabels Arcade is our totally free buying and selling site!

Elegant & beautiful swing crib plus accessories for £50 (click here)  Extra tall pet/baby gate, still in box unused for £35 (click here).  a gorgeous Cariboo folding crib in white for £60  (click here).  Lascal Maxi Buggy Board for £20 (click here).  and a free HP photosmart 7960 printer (click here).





That’s it, have a wonderful week!!







Annabel and the Team



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