by supermummy » Tue Jul 21, 2015 9:10 pm
I can totally understand that you feel aggrieved by how this has been handled. There is obviously no guarantee you would have got the job but, as you say, you should have been given the opportunity to apply for it. Comments that maybe it would have been too much for you to juggle truly astound me -would anyone ever ask a man that?? Maybe you are the breadwinner or a single parent? Maybe you just really want a career?
Anyway, back to your question. I have had a tricky time on both of my mat leaves. First time I went from being rising star to being bullied horribly when I went to ask about flexible working (of course they don't have to agree to it but they have to take it seriously andnot write you off). I was so horrified by how my male boss was treating me and that it could spell the end of my career that I got legal advice and sued them for constructive dismissal, discrimination and harassment. All I really wanted as my outcome was to keep my maternity pay, my return to work bonus and get a clean reference so I could move on with my career elsewhere and to make a point. After a whitewash of a grievance process, I kept up the pressure and they settled. I got everything I asked for and found a new job. It was very stressful, I could have insisted on taking it to tribunal and gone for more money but for me the end game was to move on and not be out of pocket. I'd made my point and that was enough vindication for me.
Second time around, a female peer with no kids was promoted to a role that I would have legitimately expected to apply for. I complained to my boss and he mumbled a few excuses. I did not take it any further as that time I really did want to go back there for various reasons and I was fairly sure there would be other opportunities (which there now are and he is supportive of me which would not have been the case if I had kicked off).
You have to be prepared to be lied about. You also need to be sure you are prepared to lose. If you are certain you will leave, you could try the grievance process first to test the water? Hopefully your solicitor can help with the strategic decisions.
Good luck!
I can totally understand that you feel aggrieved by how this has been handled. There is obviously no guarantee you would have got the job but, as you say, you should have been given the opportunity to apply for it. Comments that maybe it would have been too much for you to juggle truly astound me -would anyone ever ask a man that?? Maybe you are the breadwinner or a single parent? Maybe you just really want a career?
Anyway, back to your question. I have had a tricky time on both of my mat leaves. First time I went from being rising star to being bullied horribly when I went to ask about flexible working (of course they don't have to agree to it but they have to take it seriously andnot write you off). I was so horrified by how my male boss was treating me and that it could spell the end of my career that I got legal advice and sued them for constructive dismissal, discrimination and harassment. All I really wanted as my outcome was to keep my maternity pay, my return to work bonus and get a clean reference so I could move on with my career elsewhere and to make a point. After a whitewash of a grievance process, I kept up the pressure and they settled. I got everything I asked for and found a new job. It was very stressful, I could have insisted on taking it to tribunal and gone for more money but for me the end game was to move on and not be out of pocket. I'd made my point and that was enough vindication for me.
Second time around, a female peer with no kids was promoted to a role that I would have legitimately expected to apply for. I complained to my boss and he mumbled a few excuses. I did not take it any further as that time I really did want to go back there for various reasons and I was fairly sure there would be other opportunities (which there now are and he is supportive of me which would not have been the case if I had kicked off).
You have to be prepared to be lied about. You also need to be sure you are prepared to lose. If you are certain you will leave, you could try the grievance process first to test the water? Hopefully your solicitor can help with the strategic decisions.
Good luck!