by confusedaboutchoices » Fri Apr 29, 2016 8:09 pm
I think it's all about your own personal experiences.
I CAN afford to send my children to private school but I do CHOOSE not to for many reasons. I remember one of the mums from my children's nursery looking at me with concern when I said they were going to state school and she said 'oh well, X is almost like a state school anyway isn't it?' - and in my head my response was 'I blooming well hope not'.
So, here are my reasons why I choose to go state. I'm sure there are many many others who have the same outlook.
I have a real problem with the idea of sending my children to a school where there isn't a mix of backgrounds. I think it's unhealthy to be in an environment where most people (I know not all!) are very over privileged - your sense of what is 'normal' must be completely screwed. Of course it's also about parents and how they ground their children but the school environment is undoubtedly a massive influence (plus many parents of kids I know at privates in my opinion do over indulge their children - I admit I do too!).
Furthermore, when I first started working in the city for one of the 'big four' consulting firms, I was quite intimated by the confidence of the private school graduates....but actually many of them were overly confident and arrogant without much substance and consequently not actually good at their job which required them to have a good level of empathy with clients.
My education was a normal state school, not brilliant, not rubbish. I was in the top set for all my subjects and I think I benefited from being in a school where there were a wide range of abilities. I think if I was in a state school where everyone was very bright, I would probably have been in the lowest set (I'm clever but by no means the cleverest person that walked the earth) and I imagine that would only have dented my confidence and I seriously doubt I would have achieve the results I did.
My kids are at the local state school - we did move to buy a house near it to get into the catchment but in all honesty, the other local schools in our area which may not have as good a reputation are also extremely good. There's so much hype and rubbish here in London about which are great schools and which aren't.
It's brilliant that my children walk to school and all their friends live very locally. There's a really strong sense of community at our state school that really doesn't seem to be there for the mums I know who go to private schools.
Plus, one thing that always makes me chuckle, I know so so so many people who live in this area who went to private school and wish that they could send their children to private schools but can't afford to...doesn't that kind of show you that private schooling doesn't work?!
I completely understand people who went to private school who have heart palpitations at sending their children to state. At the end of the day, it's all about our own experiences. I prefer state because it worked for me. Of course if I'd been in a state school and I'd not done well then I probably would feel differently. Similarly I'm sure the same for anyone who went to private school.
But please don't assume just because we're at state school it's because we (poor things) can't afford to go private because that's simply not the case.
I think it's all about your own personal experiences.
I CAN afford to send my children to private school but I do CHOOSE not to for many reasons. I remember one of the mums from my children's nursery looking at me with concern when I said they were going to state school and she said 'oh well, X is almost like a state school anyway isn't it?' - and in my head my response was 'I blooming well hope not'.
So, here are my reasons why I choose to go state. I'm sure there are many many others who have the same outlook.
I have a real problem with the idea of sending my children to a school where there isn't a mix of backgrounds. I think it's unhealthy to be in an environment where most people (I know not all!) are very over privileged - your sense of what is 'normal' must be completely screwed. Of course it's also about parents and how they ground their children but the school environment is undoubtedly a massive influence (plus many parents of kids I know at privates in my opinion do over indulge their children - I admit I do too!).
Furthermore, when I first started working in the city for one of the 'big four' consulting firms, I was quite intimated by the confidence of the private school graduates....but actually many of them were overly confident and arrogant without much substance and consequently not actually good at their job which required them to have a good level of empathy with clients.
My education was a normal state school, not brilliant, not rubbish. I was in the top set for all my subjects and I think I benefited from being in a school where there were a wide range of abilities. I think if I was in a state school where everyone was very bright, I would probably have been in the lowest set (I'm clever but by no means the cleverest person that walked the earth) and I imagine that would only have dented my confidence and I seriously doubt I would have achieve the results I did.
My kids are at the local state school - we did move to buy a house near it to get into the catchment but in all honesty, the other local schools in our area which may not have as good a reputation are also extremely good. There's so much hype and rubbish here in London about which are great schools and which aren't.
It's brilliant that my children walk to school and all their friends live very locally. There's a really strong sense of community at our state school that really doesn't seem to be there for the mums I know who go to private schools.
Plus, one thing that always makes me chuckle, I know so so so many people who live in this area who went to private school and wish that they could send their children to private schools but can't afford to...doesn't that kind of show you that private schooling doesn't work?!
I completely understand people who went to private school who have heart palpitations at sending their children to state. At the end of the day, it's all about our own experiences. I prefer state because it worked for me. Of course if I'd been in a state school and I'd not done well then I probably would feel differently. Similarly I'm sure the same for anyone who went to private school.
But please don't assume just because we're at state school it's because we (poor things) can't afford to go private because that's simply not the case.