by Anidea » Sat Dec 03, 2022 8:23 am
My brother (probs better off, to be honest) asked to stop doing adult gifts a few years ago, so we just give to the respective kids. If they’re struggling at the mo, and you’re keen to give, could you check with your brother whether it would be ok to give them a (relatively) inexpensive gift like a book, so they know they have been thought of, and then (again if you’re keen and brother agrees) quietly give vouchers directly to your brother towards eg kids’ activities like swimming/an experience for family to do together? Or depending on age of kids - maybe vouchers for shoes - always £££? Have often done that for first birthdays as the grandparents often go crazy on other things anyway.
My brother (probs better off, to be honest) asked to stop doing adult gifts a few years ago, so we just give to the respective kids. If they’re struggling at the mo, and you’re keen to give, could you check with your brother whether it would be ok to give them a (relatively) inexpensive gift like a book, so they know they have been thought of, and then (again if you’re keen and brother agrees) quietly give vouchers directly to your brother towards eg kids’ activities like swimming/an experience for family to do together? Or depending on age of kids - maybe vouchers for shoes - always £££? Have often done that for first birthdays as the grandparents often go crazy on other things anyway.