I agree that it's a really tricky one knowing what to do when you have kids if you don't want to go back to your old job (or if what you did before doesn't suit having a family).
I really wanted to be around for my kids when they were small, but at the same time, I do think it's very easy to lose so much of your identity as people just see you as a mum and not as the person you were before with interests and other strings to your bow.
I thought hard about what i enjoyed and what made me feel good, and I realised that helping others and making a difference to others lives really made me feel valuable and purposeful.
As a new mum I remember with shock and amazement how much having my son changed things overnight and how I wasn't really prepared for the change. As time went on and I learnt the practicalities of looking after my baby, I started to help my friends when they had their babies - preparing them for what they needed and what it would really be like in those early weeks (something I wished I'd known).
It was through helping my friends and realising just how much I love helping people so that they don't struggle as much and making a difference to their lives, that I set up
http://www.thebabycarecompany.co.uk last year.
I'm still working out what is helping people the most - I am running classes for first time mums providing detail on all the practical things I'd wished I'd know about looking after a baby.
I am also doing classes for those pregnant for the second time where they can meet others with similar age gaps and learn about stages the older child is going through and ways of coming with 2, so they're more prepared when the time comes. I realised just how much less you think about your second baby as you're so busy with your first.
It's a constant journey and lots of hard work trying to 'get seen' above all the marketing noise around, but every time I give a class or 121 with pregnant ladies or a couple expecting and see how much happier and more confident they are afterwards, it makes me feel that I am making the difference to them.
I think if you're starting something up yourself, you have to think about what really makes you happy and what you enjoy doing and go from there.
Hope that helps
Eilish, The Baby Care Company
I agree that it's a really tricky one knowing what to do when you have kids if you don't want to go back to your old job (or if what you did before doesn't suit having a family).
I really wanted to be around for my kids when they were small, but at the same time, I do think it's very easy to lose so much of your identity as people just see you as a mum and not as the person you were before with interests and other strings to your bow.
I thought hard about what i enjoyed and what made me feel good, and I realised that helping others and making a difference to others lives really made me feel valuable and purposeful.
As a new mum I remember with shock and amazement how much having my son changed things overnight and how I wasn't really prepared for the change. As time went on and I learnt the practicalities of looking after my baby, I started to help my friends when they had their babies - preparing them for what they needed and what it would really be like in those early weeks (something I wished I'd known).
It was through helping my friends and realising just how much I love helping people so that they don't struggle as much and making a difference to their lives, that I set up http://www.thebabycarecompany.co.uk last year.
I'm still working out what is helping people the most - I am running classes for first time mums providing detail on all the practical things I'd wished I'd know about looking after a baby.
I am also doing classes for those pregnant for the second time where they can meet others with similar age gaps and learn about stages the older child is going through and ways of coming with 2, so they're more prepared when the time comes. I realised just how much less you think about your second baby as you're so busy with your first.
It's a constant journey and lots of hard work trying to 'get seen' above all the marketing noise around, but every time I give a class or 121 with pregnant ladies or a couple expecting and see how much happier and more confident they are afterwards, it makes me feel that I am making the difference to them.
I think if you're starting something up yourself, you have to think about what really makes you happy and what you enjoy doing and go from there.
Hope that helps
Eilish, The Baby Care Company