by peppermint » Sun Sep 29, 2013 10:20 pm
Widger, hi, I had very similar prolonged emotional turmoil and it ended a couple of months ago. My youngest just turned three. It took us a long time to get pregnant both times, and I would love to go again through this wonderful experience of pregnancy and seeing your newborn for the first time and discovering their little personalities. Oh, and I also had rather difficult times, so very well aware of the hardships involved. But I was desperate to have a third one, I understand so well what you feel when you see others expecting their number three. I still have it sometimes. I so wanted one more. I love how different they are, and was so curious to see what the third one would be like.
But one day I suddenly had this thought: I simply will not cope with three. My number one is mildly autistic. I find it exhausting at times, so with three I might turn into a horrible mother, permanently tired and short-tempered, and end up being hated by kids and ruin their childhood. Seeing how expensive schooling and childcare are I also realised that we simply cannot afford a third one. On top of hard work that three kids require, we will not have money to afford good schools, nice holidays, a reasonable start-up capital for children. You know, I stopped wanting a third one.
Somewhere I heard that broody feeling is caused by hormones and lasts until your youngest child turns three, then it switches off. It did in my case and I could see things and rationalise, which I could not before. I may regret later, of course. And to be honest, I will not be too upset if I fall pregnant by accident )))
Widger, hi, I had very similar prolonged emotional turmoil and it ended a couple of months ago. My youngest just turned three. It took us a long time to get pregnant both times, and I would love to go again through this wonderful experience of pregnancy and seeing your newborn for the first time and discovering their little personalities. Oh, and I also had rather difficult times, so very well aware of the hardships involved. But I was desperate to have a third one, I understand so well what you feel when you see others expecting their number three. I still have it sometimes. I so wanted one more. I love how different they are, and was so curious to see what the third one would be like.
But one day I suddenly had this thought: I simply will not cope with three. My number one is mildly autistic. I find it exhausting at times, so with three I might turn into a horrible mother, permanently tired and short-tempered, and end up being hated by kids and ruin their childhood. Seeing how expensive schooling and childcare are I also realised that we simply cannot afford a third one. On top of hard work that three kids require, we will not have money to afford good schools, nice holidays, a reasonable start-up capital for children. You know, I stopped wanting a third one.
Somewhere I heard that broody feeling is caused by hormones and lasts until your youngest child turns three, then it switches off. It did in my case and I could see things and rationalise, which I could not before. I may regret later, of course. And to be honest, I will not be too upset if I fall pregnant by accident )))
