How Long is long enough at Christmas? Post Reply

[anootka]

Just wondering how long is long enough to stay at Xmas at your in laws? I personally think no more then 2 nights, but my other half thinks that I am from Venus for not wanting to be with his family for more. How long does everyone stay at their in laws for holidays?

[Wheresmyschool?]

Two nights is more than enough.

How long does he want?

Are you seeing yours as well?

Can you balance them?

[anootka]

my family is overseas and we have never in the last 9 years have been with them (financially it is not possible), he wants 5-7 days up to 10 days (which I have done in the past)

[Wheresmyschool?]

Gosh that is a loooooong time

Do you get on with them really well?

I mean four nights for me is absolute tops.

Ten?

Eeeeek

[supergirl]

10 days seems fair over the xmas holidays. Every 2 years he spends xmas with my crazy fanily so really just fair. It helps that i adore my mother in law and i get on with his sublings. We will get 1 night if babysitting which is great!

It all depends in circumstances though if for you 2 days is enough and ge wants more then maybe you should meet in the middle? Or let him stay longer and go back home earlier for a bit of self time? Just a suggestion.

[supergirl]

I mean "10 days *for us* seems fair ..."

[mrs_pavlova]

Three or four nights max!

[Eire~mama]

Omg 10 days !!! 5 days is my very max ! My family are abroad too , so we used to spend all holidays with my in laws, after a few years I began to realise that the mother in law didnt approve of some of my parenting skills or me ! no surprise there ! so I gradually began to put my foot down about always spending Christmas at theirs , eventually refusing to go but instead inviting them to our house , where as guests ,they are much more civilised and she less bitchy ! They Never stayed more than 3 days ! You must realise that you married your husband NOT his family . And as much as he loves them he cant expect you to too !
Three days is perfect, any longer becomes uncomfortable . Good luck !

[TillyandMoo]

Absolutely no more than 1 night!!! It obviously depends on your relationship with your inlaws and mine is such that 1 night is too long! I can't believe some of you go for 10 days ... You are very good daughter in laws!! This year I'm going to my parents for a few days, then my husband will join us for Christmas Eve, and on Boxing Day we'll go to his parents for the day and night.

Merry christmas everyone, wherever you are!

[zaza107]

Two nights seems ok, but my inlaws are nearby (an hour and a half drive) and I like them a lot. I'd live with three if my husband wanted to stay longer, but wouldn't be thrilled with more than that.

Depends on how much there is to do there, for you and your husband and kids. If there are parks, playgrounds, swimming pool, movie theatre you can get out of the house and it'll be easier all around. And you and your husband could take advantage of the temporary live-in babysitters and go out on your own for a walk, a meal, etc!

[OoloK]

2 nights at the very max!!
Good luck!

[AbbevilleMummy]

An hour?! But then I am a very bad daughter in law.....

[Caferacer]

Relatives are like fresh fish...

...they go off after 3 days!

[MrsAmanda]

My inlaws live abroad so we only see them every other Christmas. But then I get a week of them. Three days is absolutely plenty and about as much as I can tolerate.

My parents live nearby so we see them for a few hours at a time. Again, absolutely plenty.

[tintin]

After 3 days family and fish go off…...