Aggressive nanny Post Reply

[Ais79]

I was walking along Ramsden Road at 3pm today when I saw a nanny acting aggressively towards a little boy for very little reason. She was quite physical with him to the point that I felt I couldn't ignore it and spoke to her. I felt that she lost control and was worried for the safety of the little boy and the baby with them.
This has been on my mind all night, especially as the little boy was very upset and seemed intimidated by this woman, so much so that I am considering reporting it to he police even though I don't think they can really do anything.
I was just wondering if anyone could offer me advice on this?

[Ais79]

I agree - there is little I can do. But I am hopeful that mums who aren't 100% happy with their nanny they will read this and keep a closer eye.

The situation arose because the little boy needed the toilet by the looks of it. She shouted at him that she was really cross because he hadn't asked to go before. She was pulling at his arms, demanded he stood still to prove he didn't need to go, put her hand on his face and dragged him and his scooter across the road. When I spoke to her she ranted something about it having been six month and he still wasn't trained. He only looked around 2 and a half/three and was clearly very scared of her. I repeatedly said to her that she had no right to do that to him as he was just a baby & she wasn't his mother. I think it registered because she stormed away quickly while trying to justify herself, albeit in an angry manner.

The nanny and the children were a different race & she looked too young to be their mother. She also didn't correct me when I said I thought she was in the wrong job.

I don't want to say any more (perhaps this is too much information already!) because I wouldn't want my child discussed in detail without me being party to the conversation. Fingers crossed this is the first and last time she (and the children) find themselves in this situation.

[lindylindylindy]

This is unacceptable behavior and I think you have done the right thing bringing it to light. If I were the parents of children that were being treated this way I would want to know right away!

You did the right thing in challenging her. It's sad that the parents are oblivious but if they see this and have any niggling doubts about her then perhaps they will know it's their nanny.

[nannysw11]

Poor little one..

[Wandsworth1]

Perhaps you could describe the little boy and the nanny in more detail so that if the Mummy/one of her friends is a member they can get in touch with you for more info - I know I'd want to know (and sack her!) if it was my nanny mistreating my son as you have described.

[Mrs Contractor Mum]

If you are really reluctant to describe the child and carer perhaps the best description is what the child was wearing and what the carer was wearing. That should be enough to alert the parents of the boy that there is an issue with his care.
As a working parent or parent in general I think it is vitally important for the wider community to be keeping vigilant on how their children are being treated. I am always being kept updated by my son's teachers, other parents and neighbours on my son's carers and I am honestly grateful for the updates so if there is an issue and my son is unable to tell me, then someone else will.

[Ais79]

All I feel comfortable saying is there were two children, boy of around 2 and a half/three and I think a girl in a pram. The pram, if my memory serves me right, was a red hooded bugaboo chameleon. Child inside was around 1 year old. Little boy was wearing blue coloured shorts (long chino) and a blue coloured tshirt. She was on a little scooter.
I'm sure from this description if a mother thought it was their child they would recognise these details, even though if sounds as though I've described every second child family in London! It's possible the nanny was making her way to a local school as it was approaching 3pm.
If anyone thinks this is their child please write on here & I'd be happy to speak to you directly.

Thank you.

[oab]

I think you did exactly the right thing by confronting the nanny and putting this post on nappyvalley. The parents are probably unaware of what is going on....
If it was our nanny behaving like that i would be very grateful if someone alerted me to it!

[Ais79]

Thank you! I appreciate people's support on this. Hopefully the mother will read this and it will be the end of it. X

[Fox]

I found out via the eastdulwichforum of a similar incident involving our then nanny. A stranger had observed her with the kids on the bus and, although there was no physical abuse, she felt she was being far too stern. It was very upsetting to find out about this in the way we did (and have to tell the family we shared the nanny with too), but I am glad we found out. We sacked her immediately (via disciplinary process). I hope the parents in question are on this forum... should be possible to track them down with a bit of luck.

[Ippyevie]

You did absolutely the right thing. Same thing happened in Maida Vale where I have just moved from. The witness had the details of the cloths of both nanny and the child, also the location, where they're heading, time etc. The family were tracked down by the mum community and god knows what happens to the nanny but the mum was really grateful that someone picked this up/intervened. The witness felt exactly the same as you - that she might have been too nosy but you should alwasys trust your feeling. If you wouldn't be happy with your kids being treated this way by the nanny, other mums wouldn't too.

[jafina]

You definitely did the right thing, both at the time and posting on here. If they were my children I would want to know if my nanny was behaving like that. I have seen nannies and au pairs being a bit "off" with their charges but never anything like this. This nanny is clearly in the wrong job.

Hopefully the family involved will read this.

[emanu_ela]

You did the right thing but I really think that it would help to have some more details about the nanny and the kids. If I was the parent of these kids I would really want to know. Obviously you cannot tell the mother directly so if by chance she comes across to this post I'm sure she will appreciate your help.

[mrs_t]

You definitely did the right thing. These little ones cannot speak up for themselves - so she is so wrong. I hope that the parents read this and sack her quite frankly. Our nursery gave me a nudge to say that our child-carer wasn't 'coping'. I don't think she could ever have been unkind to our children but I still feel bad that I didn't realise this myself. I am forever indebted to them for opening my eyes. Hopefully this little boy's parents will read your post.

[Ais79]

I just popped back on to see if there was any further activity on this post. Thank you for your kind words.

I am still reluctant to describe the nanny for various reasons. However, if someone thinks the information given describes their children I would be happy to share my contact details so we can clarify the details.