Hi All,
Its very informative and overwhelming reading all of your comments.
I am not going to add anything new under the sky here but here is the thing:
A pay rise as many highlighted earlier is not compulsory, it depends where you are at financially and emotionally.
To my opinion you do not have to compromise your pleasure for someone else; at the end of the day its not the Salvation Army, its a Job.
If you are happy to do so for X or Y reasons and can afford it without feeling sad deep down, go for it.
If not, threat your nanny as well as you can as she is in charge of your loved ones permanently.
Having said that, it is important to comprehend the reasons behind a pay rise as if its an attempts to keep your nanny with you and out of the job offers, I CAN CONFIRM FOR SURE THAT IT DOES NOT STOP ANYONE FROM LEAVING IF THEY WANT TO DO SO.
I have experienced it myself with one nanny that I particularly appreciated and would always recommend but as she as after something else I couldn't offer she left when time came regardless of feeling, attention gifts,... we were offering her whenever possible.
I am sorry to sound selfish but don't do what you do not want to and vice versa.
Chees.