Postby tess73 » Mon Jan 22, 2018 11:41 pm
Ok, I'll bite... Moncher12, you asked which part of your post was malicious gossip (as a non-Bolingbroke parent who moved to Nappy Valley from the US in Autumn 2017, from the looks of it).
So to clarify you asserted that the Bolingbroke:
1. 'Schmoozes' parents of academic or ‘right side of the tracks’ children – quite a nasty accusation.
2. Reacts in an ‘iron and ice cold’ way to complaints - I don't think you can possibly say this with any real authority, not having children at the school, and therefore never having made a complaint!
3. Has a headmistress and staff who answer to no one but themselves, and do as they like depending on how they feel about the child - again a pretty horrible accusation, how do you know this?
4. Has children who are screamed at, and ‘slagged off’ by teachers in front of their classmates - have you actually seen this? If not, this again would fall under the headline of 'gossip'.
5. Has an issue with all the good teachers leaving (or they will be leaving ) as many of them do not agree with the way Ms Edis runs things - again, how on earth would you know this? This is complete hearsay, and has been refuted by an actual parent at the school on this thread.
I don't have children at the school myself, and welcome a debate about it as my children will soon be of secondary age themselves, and it is one of the schools we are considering, but what you have written, and written with such an authoritative tone of voice, is just downright inflammatory and damaging.
Furthermore, if there is any truth in it, is obviously taken from a very small sample of your friends who are Bolingbroke parents - unless you have come to know a huge proportion of Bolingbroke parents in the short time you have lived in Nappy Valley (unlikely)? I too have a small sample of twenty or so family friends whom I know with kids at the Bolingbroke. One of them has had a bad experience - that's it. But 20 is a very small sample, so I would not claim to 'know' anything in any great depth about the school from that. Especially not repeatedly and not with such an inflammatory tone of voice all over a very popular local forum.
Clearly, no school is going to be right for ALL children. And maybe (I don't know) the Bolingbroke is more suited to the more academic / obedient / resilient kids, but from what I can see, it is a good option for many local families, that wasn't there before; it has done really well in its first lot of exams, and it is striving to do its best for kids from all 'sides of the tracks' (as you put it) in this area, albeit perhaps with a stricter disciplinary system than some would like.
Judith, I am sorry to hear of your bad experience with the school - I hope you get it resolved. As Patricia has said upthread, probably better to talk directly to your grandsons' teachers or attend the PTA meetings, than stir up this kind of negativity all over local social media. I don't think anyone can give you the answer you want here.