My most sincere thank you to everyone on this thread - I am hugely grateful for the advice and reassurances.
ElleCee - Thank you so much for the tip! We had not heard of Donhead. Having only just moved to London and with baby number 3 gracing the scene shortly after we moved we are still navigating our way and playing catch up

. We made an appointment to view the school next week. The fact that it is so much closer to where we live is certainly an added plus... I have read that it tends to be oversubscribed, but I guess we will find out more next week.
I would love to hear from anyone who has firsthand experience with Donhead school. In particular, will a shy, introvert type thrive and be happy?