Postby Sourcherry3 » Tue Jan 03, 2023 1:00 pm
From my experience, it's much easier to get in from a private prep. Preps are what they say they are - they prep for 11+, state schools don't. As one of the previous posters said, the whole last year is all about exam prep. Also, even if some selective secondaries say they take 50/50 from private / state, remember that there are many more state schools and state school kids than private school kids so the 50/50 argument, even if true, is very skewed and kids will compete against the brightest state school kids.
Yes, it definitely can be done from state and my older son is now in a top selective secondary. However, it was very stressful and he was the only one applying from his school who got in while a local private prep got almost 10 kids in (if I remember correctly). It was very hard - I was picking up a tired child at 3.30, then had to drag him to tutors and make him do all practice papers in the evenings and on weekends. Some of his friends didn't do 11+ or were aiming at less academic schools so he was often demotivated and bitter about having to work. He is now loving his new school and thriving so it was all worth it but it was hard. I then sent my younger one to a private prep and the 11+ was a much better and easier experience. The work ethic was different, the level of work was definitely higher and he did most of "hard work" in the morning, when his brain was fresh and rested. With my older one, most of the hard work had to be done in the evenings when he was already tired. Also, all his friends were in the same boat and doing exam papers was normal to him. Also, his aspirations were higher as he was comparing himself to some high achievers so he was aiming higher.
Also, on the HTs' letters... Yes, I think they matter a lot and, for example, our state HT was famously very anti-private so I'm sure his letter probably didn't do any damage but I'm sure it didn't help either. One of the most important jobs private school HTs have is maintaining and building relationships with the senior schools HTs