Flower girl - please help! Post Reply

[supergirl]

Hi there,

I hope someone will be able to help me!

My husband little brother is getting married next month and our eldest daughter is the flower girl. She will be the only one, no page boys or other little or bigger bridesmaids... So all her little cousins will be on the bench.

We have started tk explain to her, making it fun or special and everything... To no avail. She keeps saying she wants to sit with her cousins and her sister.

I ve tried looking for a video on you tube but didnt find anything nice and similar.

Does anyone of you has a video of a little girl (3.5yrs) being a flower girl on her own and walking down the aisle that you would be happy to share with me?

I d be forever grateful. Im sure if i can show that is not a big deal it would help?

And please do share some tips if you have any

Many thanks. Sx

[milliemolliemilo]

Oh bless her! When we got married we had a 2.5yr old flower girl who was a bit of a handful. Her two older sisters aged 4 & 6yrs were really good with her but on the day they were more interested in looking pretty and not having to hold hands with their little sister! We pre-empted there could be difficulty keeping the little one interested and keeping her 'in line' behind me and my bridesmaids.
I found a sweet little basket which we filled with dried lavender flowers which she sprinkled as she walked up the isle. (We had a lavender theme) This worked a treat for us. My bridesmaids carried posies of flowers and the flower girls' basket was decorated with flowers. A flower headdress too would look gorgeous.
I am sure you have already said how extra special your little girl is being a flower girl and how pretty she will look beautiful... Keep making this aspect a big thing as every little girl loves to look pretty and feel special. Then she can sit on the bench with her cousins...
I agree, if she did see another flower girl her age, this would help, but it is quite rare to just have one flower girl I would think so this will probably hard to find. I don't know if this will be any help, but I thought I would share it. Good luck.
At the end of the day, a little one is going to do what they want to do. I just accepted this fact as a bride wanting young children. It is best to be as relaxed as possible as she will pick up your anxieties and could make it worse. I would speak to the bride if I were you about this. Your little girl will melt the hearts of everyone in that church even if she does show her cheeky side and does not perform exactly as the grown ups want her too! x

[Suzy K]

Hi there
As it happens my 3.5 year old will be a flower girl next Friday so we may well have some footage or at least some pictures for you after that! That said, I can't promise how it will go - most of the time she is quite excited by the concept, not that she really gets what it is, she just likes the idea of the pretty 'fairy' dress and she loves her little white shoes (which actually look like the most uncomfortable things ever). My husband is best man so I hope if I can be at the back of the aisle or halfway down she can focus in him at front in order to get down it sensibly. She is also the only flower girl so I really hope she is having a 'good' day and goes with the flow, but we all know how these things can go!
I've tried to make sure she has been seeing the bride as much as possible so she'll hopefully feel comfortable with her on the day and I've been showing her pictures and telling her all about the grown up bridesmaids (none of which she has met) so hopefully they will not feel like total strangers on the day.
The bride and I also took her shopping for her dress and shoes so that she would be happy and hopefully excited about her outfit. Think this worked really well.
If you message me with your email I can send you some pics of the big day and let you know how it goes - and also fill you in on any new tips or pitfalls!
Shame my daughter is flower girl so soon, we could have got together to hype them up about it!

[supergirl]

Hi there.

Thank you so much for your responses and for tzking the time.

Sx