Postby Genie » Mon Nov 12, 2012 9:53 am
I always get something for my son's key carer at nursery. Even if other staff have been close to him, I don't buy for them because I don't want to cause conflict or stress between that person and the other staff who don't get something special. If we all buy for the key carers then everybody gets about the same amount.
I also bring a christmas cake for all the staff to share.
I find that I can strategically direct the casual chats I have with his carer so that I can figure out something she would like: what are the ages of her own children, does she like to wear pretty jewellery or is she into scarves, is she doing up a new home (gift card from homebase), what music does she listen to (buy her a CD), what magazines does she read (get her a subscription), what actor does she have a crush on (DVDs)?
If you can't get anywhere with this, if there's a nice restaurant near the nursery, (or one you've heard them talking about that they like) give her a gift card from there so she can go out after work one evening.
I think it's really important to do this for the people who are so important to our children's daily lives.