Children's behaviour therapies (after divorce) Post Reply

[nichat]

Hi I may have posted this recently but can't find it so asking again! Can anyone recommend any kind of therapy to help a 7 year old with anxiety & tantrum issues following my divorce - I am open to any ideas at all! Thank you Nicci

[Hedgehoghealing]

Hi there,

I don't know much about talking therapies but if you are looking for something natural, I would really recommend either Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or Bach Flower Remedies. Both are completely safe for kids and help with emotional stress. Maybe try googling a local practitioner?

I use both in my practice as a naturopath so if you have any questions, feel free to ask!

[nvmof3]

The parenting practice on Thurleigh road may be able to help. It's not counselling but I think you can have them come and observe at your house and give you behaviour management strategies.

[pearlywhite]

Hi Nicci,

EFT is a good suggestion.

On a more immediate note, children this age have difficulties like this following a divorce because they are worrying, have a feeling of powerlessness and loss of control over their immediate surroundings, and may have had a change of routine at home.

These all contribute to tantrums, general poor behaviour (eg. not listening, answering back), and general worry about seemingly inconsequential things. You could try things like defining a schedule and sticking it on the wall so a visible structure is put in place, addressing the small issues that are worrying your child (homework and after school activities seem more stressful to frustrated children), and maintaining the rules and boundaries that were in place before your divorce (as they tend to slacken as we try to make the transition an easy one - not always the best idea).

Feel free to pm me if I can help at all.

[jenwaken]

I took my daughter to a terrific therapist--specialises in play/art/drama therapy. We've seen definite improvement--both in her behaviours and in mine, too! My daughter loves going. Her name is Tamsin Cottis and she has a practice in Battersea, near the park.

[Fijibird]

Hi thank you to everyone who replied - I know this is a long time after my initial post ! I have had to reregister on this site & my new name is Fijibird but I was Nichat! My son saw a lovely therapist at the Children's Therapy Centre in Putney & we have been struggling through since then - to be honest things change depending on how his Father treats him but at the moment things aren't too bad I will keep my fingers crossed for a good second half to the Summer term, but keep in mind your recommendations so thanx again