Jeez, what a thread.
but the main point for me is what kind of place refuses to let a little girl use the loo. that's just mean. i have a boy, and we have NEVER been refused anywhere, popping into a pub, nero, starbucks, any of those places. you just ask politely and job done. and in emergencies it's easier for a little boy, not so for a little girl, for whom it may be hard not to bare her bum or wee on her shoes if out on the street. if you can prevent that situation for mum and child you should. simple as.
the Birdhouse response does seem to suggest that discodolly wasn't recognised. calling her a liar? not nice, not helping self.
i agree she may have handled it a tad better but sometimes you panic in fear of a wet pants situation.
the mumsnet thread is vile, as are most. who are those people? really? they were funny mob over the much publicised 'penis beaker' thread, but in nearly all other cases i've come across they are a judgmental unpleasant bunch. i don't think it was particularly nice to link it on here.
this thread was discussed at the school gates today and it certainly sounds like the birdhouse owner has quite a reputation. i won't repeat what other shocking stuff i've heard about his behaviour on here, but wow, someone's business really seems to be in the wrong area. move outta nappy valley mate!
i am curious about the coffee though, everyone has awful stuff to say about the place but it always ends with but their coffee is really great, almost regretfully. Lol. I may try it out when my little one is at school, you know, in close proximity to a loo, that he is allowed to use!!