Another vote for Jane Knight at Zita West. They can run preliminary tests on you and your partner and provide some suggestions on which clinics could be for you and recommend the best consultant within those clinics to see. Bear in mind some clinics employ a degree of selection in the patients they treat. IVF is big business, clinics are judged on success rates and therefore some clinics won't take on patients who they think will be unsuccessful- learning this was one of the biggest shocks for me. I just thought I could pay my money and go wherever I'd like. I've cycled at both the Lister and ARGC. The Lister does not filter patients - they take anyone who wants to try - but if you look at their success rate it could be lower than other clinics. On the other hand the ARGC has one of/or the highest success rate in the UK but it requires patients to have hormone levels under specific levels before they can start a cycle. Just to know that looking at success rates doesn't always tell the full story. But Zita West can help you with selecting the right clinic.
With regards to acupuncture, if you feel it's not working, don't be afraid to try something else (reflexology, hypnotherapy etc). On the 4 IVF cycles I had acupuncture I did not get pregnant and on the 5th cycle I did get pregnant, I didn't have acupuncture.
Very best of luck to you. It's a really hard road to travel but there are lots of ladies out there who can support you. The Fertility Friends website was an absolute lifeline for me - I didn't have any friends going through the same thing so on there I was able to talk to people about what I was going through - but I agree it's hard not to spend hours searching for success stories and reading people's signatures!