Awaiting Miscarriage - How Best to Proceed? Post Reply

[Birdie40]

Hello
As with everyone else - goes without saying that I'm sorry for your loss.

I have had two ERPC after 12 week scans - I personally was more frightened of the anaesthetic rather than anything else - but you are under for such a short amount of time. I would definitely recommend - personally I couldn't have waited - and just wanted to "get on with things" ie trying again. The bleeding afterwards really wasn't too bad either.

My second one turned out to be a molar pregnancy which was far more boring as you can't get pregnant again for 6 months +.

Good luck with whatever you decide

[upsidedownmummy]

Hi I was in the same situation with my first pregnancy a few years ago - I decided to let nature take its course and miscarried naturally after about 3 weeks after finding out the baby had no heartbeat. However it was all very bizarre - I felt like I was in a bubble not sure of what i was doing - it was my first pregnancy so I worked full time and just happened to call in sick that day because I didn't feel very well when I woke up - I dread to think what things would have been like had I gone to work. When I found out at St Georges EPU I don't recall being advised what my options were and consequently felt a bit lost about how to proceed. I do recall however thinking that I wanted to get pregnant again as quickly as possible and thought that this would best happen if I miscarried naturally - based in no information whatsoever.

I think its a very personal choice but in your position with a toddler I would probably suggest an ERPC - that way you can plan for the recovery- wish you well.

[SydneyMummy]

I too was very sad to hear of your loss especially as it also reminded me of my two miscarriages.

I would strongly urge you to have the procedure. I didn't at first with my first miscarriage and after a few weeks of waiting went to see a obstetrician/gynaecologist privately as I felt something wasn't quite right and that the miscarriage was dragging on. He told me I was lucky I went to see him when I did as I was very close to developing septicaemia. He had me admitted to the hospital via A&E to ensure it was done quickly.

Needless to say, the second time around I chose to have the procedure straight away and they were pretty good at St. Georges. It was upsetting and these things are never easy but I would definitely have the procedure again over waiting for it to happen naturally.

I don't wish to alarm you but suffice to say if you do decide to wait for it to happen naturally please try to get checked regularly to ensure everything is as it should be.

I wish you all the best.

Please ensure you take care of yourself and take some time out to grieve and to do some special things that make you feel good.

xx

[seekingadvice]

Thank you very much, everyone, for your helpful and kind replies. A scan has now showed that the heartbeat has stopped and I have decided to opt for 'expectant management' in the hope that things resolve naturally. I will take mifepristone to bring things on if nothing has happened in the next two weeks. There are a lot of pros and cons with all options, but on balance I decided to try and avoid surgery/the (low) risk of scarring if at all possible, despite the desirability of getting it over and done with in a controlled and less painful way. As a previous poster commented, it sounds like whatever route one takes, frequent medical checks are important. My thanks again and sympathies to all of you who have experienced the same sad event.