Moving On Post Reply

[supergirl]

I am very sad that this happening. Well done you for being so brave.
I am also very angry on your behalf. You say he is in thousands of pounds worth of debt. If it was me and as a matter of urgency and short term i would syphon another 2-3 grand from his account so would accrue the debts to get me and the kids out. Of course it is only possible if you have access to his accounts. I d rent a small place near my family and call CAB. I would not give him any new address. Then look for a job stacking shelves even. You say your family cant help you financially but could they help with childcare?

I might be totally naive but you need to get out quickly and start re building your life.

[NWTgo]

Thank you Supergirl. I wish I could syphon some money from him, but he doesn't have any and I also don't have access to his accounts. Luckily we keep things separate (because I knew he was bad with money), so at least I'm managing to keep my bills in order.

I have worked out that I would need £7k to leave. I would have to quit my job in London to move away meaning that I would need to pay 6 months rent in advance plus a deposit, and then I could find a job. Things would still be bad because I would have no money for bills.
I have contacted the CAB bureau today, who are looking into whether I can claim any benefits as a single parent.

I agree I need to get out quickly, but It's impossible to leave, for financial reasons. I am going to seek help from the GP to get some free counselling because I can feel myself slipping into a deep depression, and my children are starting to suffer.

[kttt]

I am so sorry to hear that. I hope anyway you stay okay. I was in similar situation, but I do not have kids, so your case is more difficult. I suggest you to ask for help your parents. I know they can't help you with money, but they can take care after your kids, and you will have more time to find a job. When you got a job, you will meet more people , whom they may help you. Try ask in CANSIL house.

hope you will be okay soon.

best wishes

[kttt]

I am so sorry to hear that. I hope anyway you stay okay. I was in similar situation, but I do not have kids, so your case is more difficult. I suggest you to ask for help your parents. I know they can't help you with money, but they can take care after your kids, and you will have more time to find a job. When you got a job, you will meet more people , whom they may help you. Try ask in CANSIL house.

hope you will be okay soon.

best wishes