Husbands affair Post Reply

[Notinagoodplace]

I do - I really want to try and make it work for us and for the kids. But we have had a few more hiccups since I found out and makes me question everything again. I have discovered he is clinically depressed which didn't help the situation but I still believe you have to be accountable for your choices.

I can't bring myself to tell my parents as they would never forgive and would make the whole situation worse - which is not what I need. I genuinely never thought he would do it (maybe what all wife's say !) but I thought we were good together and never thought he would sink that low and risk losing everything for some fun. I also feel so stupid as I confronted him a few months ago and believed everything he told me. Thanks for all the replies and comments they really do help. And promise I will post back when I have settled down and hopefully we will grow stronger from this.

[cloudthirtysix]

Hey Notinagoodplace,

It's such a horrendous situation you're in, and I completely understand about not wanting to tell your parents- if you do work it out and chose to forgive him, they might not forget and forgive!
Don't beat yourself up for believing him back then - that's a great reflection of your commitment to this relationship and of your strength then to chose to believe and trust him. It says a lot about him, and it's a real shame.
I agree with you, he might be depressed, but people are responsible for their choices. Don't put yourself in the "saviour" position too much, as you need to take care of yourself too.

I'm here to chat if you want to, let me know. Good luck working through this one, and take good care xx

[Fbtoast]

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if you're just looking for a way to regain your equilibirum and get through these weeks before the baby comes, perhaps you could try meditation? I know Sivananda Yoga in Putney does 1.5 hour long meditation sessions on Saturdays, I think, and they're free! Lots of people say meditation is a really good way to ground yourself, free yourself of stuff that's bothering you and get into a better place.

All the best anyway - I'm rooting for you and your family - big virtual hugs