Husband won’t let me drink. Daughter self-harming – help. Made redundant with zero notice: advice wanted!

Last Updated on : 19th June 2017


Dear NappyValleyNetter,

This week I want to lead with a question from a user who is keen to start drinking again, but she has a husband who is adamant that she should not.

It’s not a query we’ve had before and, although I believe very very strongly in our own right to choose, like many things in the real world there are two sides to every story (read more).

Please do help if you can but, please bear in mind when replying, this is a real person with a real concern.


This is what you’ve been talking about on NappyValleyNet… 

GD is fed up with the deliveries outside The Hope pub blocking traffic during rush hour. Does he have a point or should he just relax with a cold beer? (read more)

T is worried about her daughter who sometimes hurts herself when frustrated.  Have you had a similar experience or can you offer advice on how she might deal with it? (read more)

E asks if you can recommend a relationship counsellor? (read more).

SM’s husband is suffering with sciatica and wonders if you have any advice or can suggest someone to help? (read more)

Two workplace legal advice questions: C wonders if you’ve ever had a grievance procedure against you? (read more). And N. was made redundant with zero notice – she’s looking for a lawyer (read more). Try Joanna Martin – she’s amazing!

Many of us are very disappointed that there’s no Northcote Road Fete this summer, Jonathan, who is head of the Northcote Road Business Network, has gone into more detail as to why it’s not happening. Thank you J! (read more).

G is investigating what donations are needed to help those affected by the terrible fire at Grenfell Tower? (read more).

Jane Ellison lost her seat in the election and this post has become a little heated. Please do remember when replying that politicians are real people with feelings. Sometimes I think we can forget that (read more).

E asks whether anyone has tried Farmdrop?  (read more)  If you do want to give it a go we have an amazing special offer! (read more)  Sticking with gorgeous food, OddBox are offering to delivery a Wonky Veg Box to your door for 50% less than normal for your first two boxes. Both of these offers are just for NappyValleyNetters. Yay!  (read more)

Bubble is a new app that helps you with flexible childcare. Order, book and pay through the app. It’ll stop Mr NVN raiding our children piggy bank after a refreshing night out! (read more).

Sticking with childcare, T needs an au-pair for a few days in early August – any spare au-pairs? (read more) . Still sticking with childcare: MG’s lovely Italian au pair would love to meet others in the Clapham/Wandsworth area  (read more). Lastly, S is looking for easy-to-get-to-from-Tooting-Bec English classes over the summer for her au pair. Any ideas? (read more).

Remember the discussion on a park being replaced by a block of flats? It’s STILL ongoing! (read more).

FEJ is after a lemon cake baker for a friend’s daughter’s graduation in July (read more). I’m guessing Mary Berry will be too busy – who else might help her avoid a soggy bottom?

WL has posted about a Ravenstone Primary lost school bag which sounds like it may have taken a bus ride. Have you seen the slippery satchel? (read more)

Sticking with lost and found., V. found a blue school cardigan outside Gail’s. It’s Amina Afir’s in 1F. Well done for name taping and, as the song from Les Miserables says, let’s send it home! (read more)

R asks what do you do with the children during the holidays when both parents work full time and they’re a bit too big for most of the clubs?  Good question! (read more)

Wandsworth Council have launched a Community Safety Survey so we residents can have our say on crime reduction (read more).

A is looking for help setting up a children’s birthday party in July (read more). On the same theme, H is looking for ideas for a 5-year-old going home bag (read more). I think that’s for 5 year olds, not a bag that’s been around for 5 years!

B is looking for good homes for a whole bunch of baby and toddler clothes  (read more).

L asks how you choose a hospital when pregnant for the first time?  (read more).

I is looking for more local residents who’d like to take part in Artists’ Open House 2017? (read more)

P lives in Tooting Bec and would love a local hypno-birthing course recommendation  (read more). Look into my eyes, you’re feeling sleepy!

Sticking with courses: Nurturing Mums run popular postnatal courses and the next one in Earlsfield starts this week  (read more).

If you would like a FREE copy of our Schools Guide or our Design and Build Guide then just click here!


We have more travel posts than Katy Perry has Twitter followers!

The Standard has published a piece on the best beaches within easy reach of London. What’s YOUR favourite? (read more) E. tells us all about real adventure holidays for 12-16 year olds in Pembrokeshire. I’ve met E, he’s local, and these sound fab! (read more)Gitcombe Country Cottages in Devon have posted details of a 20% off offer for June, if you have pre-schoolers, what are you waiting for!?  (read more)  Turquoise Holidays have launched their first children’s book with author Abi Elphinstone and they share a passion for Thailand. Order your free copy of The Pocket Elephant (read more). Looking for a holiday with a difference? Julian Cousins is organising a cyclist’s Italian dream weekend in October (read more). And looking ahead, Ski Famille have revealed details of their free Skiplex slope sessions on a revolutionary revolving indoor ski slope (read more).


Looking for a new role? We have more job vacancies than Glastonbury has bands!

GOSH have posted details of a new job opportunity with their fantastic charity (read more).  A part-time carer is needed in Putney  (read more). A is looking for a dog walker (read more) . If you’re a bookkeeper or finance manager, there’s a part time role in Southside (ooh the shopping on your lunch break…)  (read more). N is looking for a housekeeper two or three days a week and an Italian speaker would be a plus!  (read more)  And JP’s cleaner is looking for a few more hours cleaning.  Perhaps she should meet N! Parla italiano? (read more)


We have more schools questions than Clapham Common had London to Brighton cyclists yesterday

When should and shouldn’t you tutor your child? Our friends JK Educate are holding a free education talk to help parents find the answer. It’s at the Omnibus Theatre (read more).  G is undecided between The White House and Eveline Day School and would love your thoughts  (read more).  S is just starting to look at state secondary schools for 2018 and would like to hear more about Chestnut Grove – its new buildings and aptitude tests (read more). C asks whether it’s sensible to visit universities outside of normal open days? (read more)


We have more activities than the GCSEs are creating stressed students!

Monkey Music has reached Parsons Green on Thursdays with a first session free offer  (read more).  Let’s Act have posted details of the musical theatre summer camps with just a few places left!  (read more)  There are spaces left with NCT Mother & Baby Yoga in Balham if you’ve had your postnatal check  (read more).  The High View Primary Summer Fete is coming soon: fun and games and fabby raffle prizes! (read more).


We have more House & Garden queries than Wandsworth Common had sunbathers over the weekend!

IAC is looking for a kitchen fitter (read more). S wants to make her roman blinds safe with small children around – any top tips? (read more)  ES is on the look out for a window cleaner (if only she could see out to find one..!)  (read more).  CF would love to find an affordable kitchen designer (read more).  The question of which boiling water tap to go for is still bubbling along nicely (read more). If you’re considering a move in the Surrey direction (don’t go!), then two ex-London mums are happy to help  (read more).  There’s a two-bed flat for rent on Shelgate Road  (read more).   If you’re after some carpentry, G W Cabinetry have posted images of some recent work. Loving the grey! (read more)  O has two large double rooms for rent just off East Hill  (read more).  OP would love paint colour advice to give her kitchen cupboards a refresh  (read more).


It’s totally free to post your Wanted, For Sale and Recycling adverts

C is in need of a nursing chair and stool having just brought their little son home – congratulations!  (read more)  A has four tickets for Ladies’ Day at Ascot on Thursday. Get your gladrags on, girls! (read more)  ABC is selling her Regency-style sofa (and it’s even in royal purple)  (read more).  For A&M, it’s time to say goodbye to their daughter’s 18″ bicycle in Balham  (read more).



Phew, that’s it, have a fabby week!


Annabel and the NappyValleyNet team

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