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by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:27 pm
Forum: Chat Here
Topic: Feeling Lost and Stuck - appreciate your advice
Replies: 15
Views: 2511

Re: Feeling Lost and Stuck - appreciate your advice

At some point I felt stuck (in my marriage and my life). What worked for me was seeing a psychotherapist. I tried 3 different ones. They often offer the first session for free, but even if they don't those initial sessions can be quite helpful to get the issue and what you need straight. I would def...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:16 pm
Forum: Childcare
Topic: Anyone tried this nanny alternative?
Replies: 25
Views: 4540

Re: Anyone tried this nanny alternative?

Oh! 2K is very expensive! But by all means, if it works go ahead. Especially if your children love it. Just something to consider: I used to have an after school nanny, which was actually a cheaper option. She played with my son, cooked our supper (and tidied up the kitchen), and took my child to cl...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 05, 2018 8:11 pm
Forum: House and Garden
Topic: Fussy eater!
Replies: 6
Views: 779

Re: Fussy eater!

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. My story is like yours. Fussy eater from the start, and slow too. He easily took 45 min to 1 hour to breastfeed the first 9 months. He is 13 now, we easily spend at least half an hour at the dinner table, if not longer and he still eats the amount of calor...
by HikingGirl
Mon Nov 27, 2017 9:11 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Social life after divorce?
Replies: 22
Views: 5518

Re: Social life after divorce?

Totally true. Lots of people are lonely. My husband travels a lot, and if he is home, he loves being at home and not having a social life. I have learned to build my own, but it does take time. Frankly, as I am from abroad (The Netherlands), I have learned over the past 12 years that people do stuff...
by HikingGirl
Mon Oct 30, 2017 9:08 am
Forum: Chat Here
Topic: Looking for advice
Replies: 5
Views: 2049

Re: Looking for advice

All great suggestions. My life partner died years ago, and the things I remember most are: - regular postcards from people to say they were still thinking of me - a friend who phoned me every single month. Initially it was a bit overkill but over time it was really, really nice - practical support: ...
by HikingGirl
Mon Oct 30, 2017 8:49 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Help - I've never hosted a dinner party!
Replies: 15
Views: 2805

Re: Help - I've never hosted a dinner party!

Oh. Yes, I know how you feel. I have been there. Definitely DON'T cook anything you never did before. I did a roast lamb once -which everyone told me was easy - and followed cooking instructions, only to find it was still frozen on the inside when I served it. Best solution: just buy starter and des...
by HikingGirl
Mon Jun 19, 2017 10:44 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Child sometimes hurts herself when frustrated - advice on how to deal with this please...
Replies: 12
Views: 2190

Re: Child sometimes hurts herself when frustrated - advice on how to deal with this please...

Thanks for posting. Definitely consider a coach or psychotherapist. It may well not go away and once they are older you will have less control to suggest things like play therapy or similar. Check out Lisa Parkes - the Smiley Coach. I can highly recommend her. http://smileyforlife.com/ It sounds lik...
by HikingGirl
Mon Jun 19, 2017 10:35 am
Forum: Chat Here
Topic: Moved to Surrey - Anyone know a 'NappyvalleyNet' Surrey?
Replies: 1
Views: 323

Moved to Surrey - Anyone know a 'NappyvalleyNet' Surrey?

Hi,
We have moved to Surrey (Leatherhead/Horsley/Oxshott/MoleValley area) and I am still active on here. However I would love to find a local equivalent for local questions e.g. finding a nutritionist, tai chi trainer or similar. Anyone know someone who might know?
by HikingGirl
Mon Jun 19, 2017 10:31 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: what to do with kids during the holidays
Replies: 7
Views: 2055

Re: what to do with kids during the holidays

Hi, tough one. I have the in-laws staying for 3 weeks, who tend to be good in entertaining him and supervising playdates with kids from school that are around. Then he is off with a friend on holiday for 5 days, and scout camp for a week. He is only 12 so I imagine we have many more holidays to come...
by HikingGirl
Mon May 22, 2017 10:47 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Can a solicitor mummy ever achieve a work/family life happy balance?
Replies: 21
Views: 4776

Re: Can a solicitor mummy ever achieve a work/family life happy balance?

Agree with all of the above, best to find something in your current field that does give more flexibility. There's certainly no point staying in a job where you don't feel valued, as eventually that is not a very secure income either. This could get from bad to worse. Of course it could get better t...
by HikingGirl
Tue May 02, 2017 10:24 pm
Forum: Chat Here
Topic: Husband has no friends - help
Replies: 24
Views: 5392

Re: Husband has no friends - help

My husband could have written this post about me :) . I often do feel lonely, and just don't have enough friends. Acquaintances plenty. I moved to the UK 12! years ago and you would think in 12 years you manage to make some friends. I did think it was me, but I think it's just more that people's liv...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 16, 2015 10:52 am
Forum: Chat Here
Topic: Working shifts and juggling childcare
Replies: 1
Views: 694

Re: Working shifts and juggling childcare

Try, Live-in nanny could work for sure, each nanny has there own ideas on how flexible they like to be. Au-pair could work (although they aren't supposed to work more than 30 hours a week, so not sure how many hours you would usually need). Try Parental Choice, they are an agency specialised in find...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 16, 2015 10:44 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Question about au pair étiquette....
Replies: 14
Views: 3967

Re: Question about au pair étiquette....

I was an exchange student in a different culture for a year, and had lots of issues in some of the families I stayed in. (The programme existed of 4 host families in 12 months). Most problems came from them tiptoe-ing around issued until they had ballooned into massive issues. They also came from 's...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 16, 2015 10:30 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: MIL
Replies: 27
Views: 4150

Re: MIL

My in laws and parents live abroad, so an entirely different situation (no unexpected popping in). However, my son does have very different relationship with his 2 sets of gp's, and that can make things tricky. My principles are: 1. I want him to have a good relationship with his gp's (and feel they...
by HikingGirl
Mon Feb 16, 2015 10:12 am
Forum: Got a Question?
Topic: Inexpensive birthday cake?
Replies: 11
Views: 1429

Re: Inexpensive birthday cake?

Best thing I ever did: buy a simple cake (or perhaps for 15 2 cakes) from Waitrose or Sainsbury's, then decorate yourself with ideas from the web. We got away with a tub of fudge, cutting up cake 2, and icing part of it on to make it look like a fort, adding choc fingers for drawbridge etc. and plas...