My husband was made redundant two recessions ago. He knew it was coming and it eventually did and he had to tell me. Our daughter was 18 months. You’ve had warning so have a plan if you can. It’s a time to pull together. Good luck.
I spoke to my community nurse daughter about this who said the GPs were ‘naughty’ and had left a lot of people to sort themselves out. The community nurses would visit and give injections but only on referral from the GPS. Not satisfactory.
Pity you didn’t think to lockdown with them from the beginning. Which is what a friend of mind has done with her 90 year old parents. They are running her ragged but they are all safe and she is doing the caring and cleaning.
They possibly feel the same way as you do. The alpha one’s way of operating is to take over. People go along with it for a while then get fed up. I’ve seen it many times with friendship groups. Just give it time, and make some other friends in the meantime.
My mother lived 300 miles away in this country. She came to stay once a year for two weeks. We spoke on the phone every week. It was quite enough. My MIL lived in Wales and would come for a week. My husband would deliver her and disappear for the duration ie no responsibility for taking her out/talk...
You’re organising it so either the suggestion already made or a drink in a pub? In my experience of successful ladies nights the food isn’t really important as what people want to do is talk. Fancy dining isn’t the purpose of the event, surely?
HappySunshines suggestion good. It’s all very well pondering the reason why your SIL is a cow but you deserve respect and good manners. A variation on Happy Sunshine’s suggestion is Why would you say that? Good luck.