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Re: Left out of a girls holiday to Ibiza

Soulsearch I’m sorry for you. Sounds like a crap situation and feelings of rejection always cut deep. Especially if you’ve had a rubbish year generally. However, thank you SW4al. On a selfish level your response is excellent. I empathise with soulsearch’s pain, and easy to go on the defensive (what ...
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by NVNV
Mon May 13, 2019 12:00 pm

Re: Friend having affair and not sure how to deal with it

The other thing is part of being a friend is keeping each other on the straight and narrow. She also has to live with her behaviour and its consequences and she might value a friendly guide now. That said, that can only be done with compassion and her knowing you love her and are looking out for her...
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by NVNV
Mon Mar 25, 2019 2:36 pm

Re: Friend having affair and not sure how to deal with it

I don’t envy you this one. Though I don’t think it’s fair to say this isn’t about you. Sadly now, it is. You have to live with how you respond, and you have to live with the outcomes - how this affair affects both your friendship with your friend and your family friendship with her husband, and your...
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by NVNV
Mon Mar 25, 2019 2:26 pm

Re: I want a third but husband isn’t sure

What a difficult one Thirdchild. I haven't been in your position but maybe I can give a different POV. My husband and I had our first child nearly 18 months ago. We both thought we wanted two. Even though our child is relatively easy, we've both realised we think we're happy to stick with one child....
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by NVNV
Mon Aug 13, 2018 12:19 pm

Re: Mother attacked for Rolex as her children run screaming for help

Wow. Racist much? Why are some people on here assuming that poverty as the reason this happened and thereby giving them some sense of justification? I don't see it like that at all. Nobody in the UK is that poor! These well-builtand healthy looking guys are clearly not starving and so desperate tha...
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by NVNV
Wed Jul 25, 2018 11:48 pm

Re: Mother attacked for Rolex as her children run screaming for help

The poor family, and all the others who’ve faced similar things. What a horrible thing to face and have to deal with. Also, totally unsettling for everyone else who now fears the same. And targeting mums with kids is low - got to wonder what’s gone so wrong in someone’s life to be so inhumane. All t...
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Replies: 43
by NVNV
Tue Jul 24, 2018 7:07 pm

Re: Wife refuses to stop spending so much - help

I’m sorry, I missed one crucial question: How does this make you feel? Obviously stressed, pushed financially, but if I say it’s about more than money, does it make you feel as though she’s undervaluing the good life you feel you provide? Maybe you both feel under appreciated in different ways? Howe...
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by NVNV
Mon Jul 23, 2018 9:51 am

Re: Wife refuses to stop spending so much - help

Justanothermum and Mum2Girlz speak a lot of wisdom. Money is always a difficult topic and different couples both manage and view joint income differently. I think it’ll always be contentious and subjective. With that in mind, from the way you explain the situation it doesn’t seem to me that money is...
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by NVNV
Mon Jul 23, 2018 9:02 am

Re: Paying for childcare cash in hand - what's the view?

I certainly agree that childcare is a necessary condition for most of us to do our job. It does seem odd that one cannot deduct childcare expenses required while off on a business trip however one could choose to spend as little or as much on meals and hotels and it would all be deductible because ...
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Replies: 34
by NVNV
Tue Mar 27, 2018 1:10 pm

Re: Paying for childcare cash in hand - what's the view?

I'm not a tax expert but I would think HMRC would frown upon an individual deducting the expenses of a driver to drive him around for personal reasons or deducting the expenses of a personal assistant helping out with non-business tasks. I realize it's a tricky topic (drivers at work or PAs at work...
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by NVNV
Mon Mar 26, 2018 9:24 pm

Re: Paying for childcare cash in hand - what's the view?

And I'd love to know from AbbevilleMummy why on earth she thinks I as a taxpayer should contribute to the cost of her nanny by making it tax deductible. Because other forms of staff are tax deductible - drivers, PAs etc It is often pointed out that there is an inherent sexism in a system which make...
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Replies: 34
by NVNV
Mon Mar 26, 2018 3:59 pm