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Re: How Do You Manage Elderly Parent Care as a Couple?

Do you help her with her family commitments? It may be she's just following your pattern?  If you do help her with her family or other obligations, I think you should have a chat about this and ask her why she's not reciprocating. 
Replies: 18
Mon Feb 03, 2025 11:51 am

Re: Husband wants us to separate /divorce

Thank you @Vicki W for responding. There is no doubt that there was coercive control in our marriage.  I have approached a number of charities. However, the situation is so complex they are unable to assist. I am at a loss as to where to turn now. I have not approached the last two charities you ha...
Replies: 25
Mon Aug 12, 2024 1:06 pm

Re: What to do with my cheating husband?

Lack of intimacy and cheating sound like they may be intertwined with the fact you have 3 children to take care of.  Lying is a remover of trust, and trust is essential to intimacy.  So is the workload of raising 3 children.  I think both of you need to be doing a bit of separate counselling to see ...
Replies: 12
Mon Aug 12, 2024 12:46 pm

Re: Husband wants us to separate /divorce

Reading your posts you are being subject to coercive control which covers financial and legal abuse.  If you access Surviving Economic Abuse charity they have alot of information about financial/legal abuse.  I would also contact Women's Aid/Refuge and get an IDVA - independent domestic violence adv...
Replies: 25
Mon Aug 05, 2024 12:23 pm

Re: Friend's husband is a sexual harrasser

This is sexual assault.  If you decide to confront him in a public place, make sure you covertly record it so that you have evidence of what transpires if you do decide to go to the police.  Dont blame yourself for not reacting in the moment, many women are too shocked and scared of the public fallo...
Replies: 22
Mon Jul 01, 2024 11:18 am

Re: Trigger warning - domestic abuse / suicidal thought

Your sister has been exposed to coercive control by the sound of it which is why she is defending the abuser as she has been groomed into believing she cant exist without him. This is a very complete form of brainwashing - my child has been subject to the same process and I havent seen or heard from...
Replies: 7
Mon May 13, 2024 9:58 am

Re: Can I approach my ex MIL for son's non payment of school fees

I would send a copy of the court order to the school as this is the father's obligations. I would also discuss this with your ex's mother to see if she can exert some pressure on your ex.  This is financial abuse and falls under post separation coercive control.  I would also, if you can afford it, ...
Replies: 12
Mon Apr 22, 2024 10:50 am

Re: Bashed my ex and now my son won't have anything to do with him

As a domestic abuse survivor I have had no contact with my child now for nearly 5 years as a continuation of her father's abuse. From your post, your son stopped going to contact due to your ex remarrying and being more involved with his step children.  This would have caused huge pain to your son a...
Replies: 14
Mon Apr 15, 2024 11:37 am

Re: Flasher - Wandsworth common

Just wanted to respond to say I'm really sorry that happened to you and your child. Glad the police responded quickly as male flashing is often a precursor to further assaults.
Replies: 1
Mon Apr 15, 2024 11:16 am

Re: Not invited to a girls weekend.

If you'd like to reconnect then I'd either ask the person organising it or your friend to ask on your behalf. But I'd also take this as an indicator that if you don't go to group reconnections, it does tend to drop you down the invite list for later events as people think you have less interest in t...
Replies: 8
Mon Feb 26, 2024 9:51 am

Re: How big an age gap is ok?

If he seems a good fit for your daughter and she wants to take a gap year to travel with him which wont be til she's 18 then I'd wait and see how things play out.  Young relationships can be volutile and they may not even be together in 2 years time ...
Replies: 7
Mon Feb 19, 2024 11:15 am

Re: How much is too much arguing?

I would question what you're arguing about and whether it resolves issues. Constructive arguing is fine, particularly if you are both tired or one of you is not pulling their weight, the same argument over and over again is more problematic. Does your partner share in trying to resolve issues or is ...
Replies: 4
Mon Feb 19, 2024 11:09 am

Re: Catcalling

You may well be wondering why my focus is on her, and not trying to change the behaviour of males who do this. This because I don't believe animal behaviour can change, and after all, humans are animals. Trying to focus on changing the bevaiour of these types of males, who will continue to be born ...
Topic: Catcalling
Replies: 16
Mon Nov 27, 2023 10:20 am

Re: Catcalling

Hi, Who did this? Was is a grown man or school boys? It would be a serious matter if the former. Its a serious matter done by school boys too. Boys are learning that harrassment of girls is ignored and so they grow into this attitude through learning its tolerated by the adults around them. Boys ag...
Topic: Catcalling
Replies: 16
Mon Nov 27, 2023 10:14 am

Re: Discretionary Trust payment for children - used by father

Mikeydon wrote: Thu Oct 05, 2023 8:16 amYou can’t say that you now don’t know that your husband cannot be trusted or you didn’t see a red flag

I dont think the original post claimed she didn't know now.  It seems a strange thing to say in light of the husband's actions ...
Replies: 12
Mon Oct 09, 2023 11:48 am