Hello. Firstly I am sorry that you are going through this. I am too, and as amicable as it is, it's not fun. My view is that it would be better for you not to go as a family. First and foremost, I think it will confuse your children, however friendly you are. I have a 6 year old and it's taken a while for her to understand that Daddy isn't coming home, because we have a such a good and friendly relationship. Secondly, no matter how inevitable, I don't think that anyone wants to get divorced - going on holiday together might be incredibly painful for you / him and possibly confuse things if there is a possibility of a reconciliation. Thirdly, bizarre at it sounds, going on holiday with just the kids can be surprisingly relaxing. I have been doing it for two years now, with three - they were 10,7 and 5 the first time - and it was a great opportunity for us to bond as a four and get used to the new reality away from home. It's not to say that I didn't have the odd moment... good luck with it all, I am sure that you will make the right decision for you all.