I utterly understand where you are coming from and your real cause for concern. Having been involved with children professionally and socially, I would advise the finding of an older person in a friendship/mentor type role. If this can be long term, it can take the child through so many discussions and bonding time together. It can be a relative but doesn't have to be.
Also, some children actually enjoy seeing a counsellor and it depends how this is broached.
In conclusion, I think widening her sphere of influence and friendship can give her good grounding.
All the best