That would **** me right off, no wonder you are fuming. This is SO typical of men, because I'm prepared to stake a whole lot in the fact that no mum would come up with such a bloody selfish idea!!
A couple of weeks, yes. Even then I would be a bit cheesed off but more understanding.
Four months?? Eh, absolutely no way.
He sounds like he's having a midlife crisis looming.
The thing is, he is totally right about the fact that he might not indeed get a chance like this again. However, to want to endulge the thought and leave you all alone for such a long period of time and get all the stress and responsibility of the house and the children is frankly unacceptable.
When you marry and have children it's the trade off, you get stability and amazing children but lose the luxury of utter selfishness and freedom.
And I would not dee comfortable with my husband travelling like a twenty something back packer... Meeting all gap year happy go lucky twenty something's ..
with the boring naggging wife at home who actually wants him to do work to the house and grown up stuff.
Don't give in on this one, perhaps negotiate the length of the trip.
Bring him back to earth .
Perhaps let him read these posts!!!
Feel for you !
All the best