Thanks for all the feedback, it's very very useful
I tend to agree with the earlier post, maybe you should really think why this is bothering you?
I think this is an interesting question.
I do trust him so it's not that I am worried about him straying. I think what really pisses me off is that up until now we've had an explicit agreement in that he works hard and brings in the money and I work hard and manage children/house/schools etc etc. That's not to say I wanted this situation but he has an incredibly well paid and incredibly busy job and a number of years ago he suggested that if he was to get to the big league pay-wise then he'd need to dedicate himself 100% and that meant I would have to do everything else.
That means when we go on holiday as a family he comes home from the office, takes a shower and steps into the cab ready to take us to the airport. His bag is packed, his passport ready and he just walks and leaves.
I was happy to do that (and more) as we had a deal and now I feel that now he has some time we should all benefit. Why can't I go to college for three months?
I see it as time for us and not time for him
I suppose that's what really bugs me