Postby Tpa » Mon Sep 04, 2017 12:42 am
Almost all of my friends drank limited quantities while pregnant, as the guidelines are not as restrictive here (as compared to the US, for example). When the rules are lax across countries and MANY women did grow up with moms that drank (my best friend's mom tells us she had vodka gimlets every night throughout 4 pregnancies!), you will have women who are completely at ease with this decision, even though it seems wrong to you.
I have friends who have been incredibly offended when questioned by others on their personal choice during pregnancy (though they never tell the offender that - but laugh it off, as your friend has). As you have posted in this forum, I'm guessing that you are both the typical NV mom - very concerned about the welfare, education and upbringing of your children - so imagine how uncomfortable it might be for you to imply that she is not taking care of her unborn child.
Having said that, we are shaped by our experiences in life, so everyone's tolerance on this subject will be different. You are entitled to have a personal opinion that conflicts with hers and when your tolerance limit is reached, you should be prepared to have the conversation and possibly lose her as a friend, because she also has a right to decide whether she has tolerance for your opinion. If you are not super close, you could also take a break from spending time with her (as its a temporary situation). But there's no point in harboring strong emotions over it - that will only make you more upset and likely to do that silly thing that you are NOT supposed to do to your friends - air it in private to anyone who will listen!