We used the most fantastic agency for my mother's care and I cannot recommend them highly enough. We had the same carer for two and a half years (other than when she had some time off and the agency organised cover) and she was everything you would want. My mother had dementia too and we brought in a live in carer after she fell and broke her hip and shoulder. Our carer ensured that my Mum kept mobile, took her out and about, kept the house spotless, cooked the most amazing nutritious meals and formed a lovely relationship with my mother and with my sister and me.
The carer we had, and those who covered, were middle-aged, white South African women (that is not intended to be racist or in any way discriminatory - just to make the point that English is their first language and with some older people (my mother), a white person is preferable). They all had a wonderful attitude to care and regard it as a privilege to look after somebody.
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It is a really hard time for you but once you have the right care in place, you can relax a little bit!