How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

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How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby oneandonemakethree » Thu Jan 06, 2022 8:57 pm

Can anyone advise me how I can get my husband to give up smoking.

He's smoked since he went off to uni ( he's now 45) but stopped when he had a health scare a few years ago but I've recently discovered that he's secretly smoking again. I am absolutely distraught, cross, worried and more.

In an outpouring of guilt he confessed that the various stresses of the last year meant that he had started up again. He promised to make it a New Year resolution to stop but I'm not sure that he has ....I'm not sure how best to handle it.

Is there anyone out there with any tips/ideas etc? I'm not sure that my constant pleading or highlighting the health risks will work but his parents don't know and I am wondering if outing him to them or using the threat as leverage would work? He obviously knows what he's doing to himself... 

 
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Allan Carr’s EasyWay

Postby Julesw9999 » Mon Jan 10, 2022 9:11 am

Allan Carr’s EasyWay course is in Raynes park and is THE best way to quit!! There’s groupon vouchers for £150 at the moment otherwise it’s £299 but it works after one day session and is sooo easy!! Literally job done!!
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby Starr » Mon Jan 10, 2022 9:12 am

Or by using a vape?
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby Bunnyboots » Mon Jan 10, 2022 9:53 am

Nicotine patches were the thing that helped me stop smoking and I’d been smoking at least 20 a day for over 30 years. I used the strongest ones and kept the previous day’s one on so I had two on at the same time. I used them for 10 months (having moved down to a lower dose towards the end) and have never smoked since. That was 12 years ago.
I found the fact that I was getting a constant supply of nicotine into my system took away any desire to smoke.
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby twingirlsmama » Mon Jan 10, 2022 11:43 am

Several years ago after I had firmly quit a serious Marlboro habit I had a crisis that started me on the slippy slope to being a professional smoker again - something I was deeply disgusted by but couldn’t quit again. Next week became next month which became the next school holiday and so on.
Finally I sought help from my GP (Thurleigh Road Practice) and was enrolled on their quit smoking clinic. A complete sceptic I nevertheless went along. In my first session I was given Champix and after literally 1 tablet I never smoked again and that was 9 years ago. The morning after my appointment I lit my 6 am cigarette and put it out halfway through.
I couldn’t quite believe this and to this day it amazes me given I was so gripped by the addiction.
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby Dickyd » Mon Jan 10, 2022 1:10 pm

About 20 years ago I attended an Alan Carr course at Raynes Park having been a cigarette smoker for more decades than I cared to remember. After a four hour session, I walked away and have never smoked another cigarette since. Very clever technique as they concentrate on the 'benefits' of not smoking ....not all the doom and gloom stuff.... it worked for me!
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby DaleHart » Sun Nov 19, 2023 2:12 am

Dealing with a loved one's smoking habit can be challenging. It's essential to approach this situation with empathy and care.Rather than involving his parents or using threats, consider having an open and understanding conversation with him. Express your worries and your desire to see him quit smoking for his health. Offer your support and explore options together, such as seeking professional help or using nicotine replacement therapies.For more information and resources on quitting smoking and understanding the risks of different nicotine products, you can check out how much nicotine is in a vape. It may provide valuable insights as you continue to address this issue. Best wishes as you navigate this journey together.
Last edited by DaleHart on Mon Nov 20, 2023 2:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby muddyboots » Sun Nov 19, 2023 12:43 pm

Short answer, you can’t.

It’s his habit and it requires his own will.

However, what can help is the following.
If he’s willing to try. Ask him, out of all the cigarettes he smokes which one can he let go off.
The only he has just because but can really do without. This is the first one to let go off .

So if he smokes ten a day and if desperate for the first one and after food but kind of has one when he’s bored… this is the one he can try to let go off for maybe 2 weeks…
Then this micro achievement will hopefully make him able to rate his cigarettes if he smokes by association and habit.
So if he lights one when he’s walking etc
See which next could be taken out.
Imagine it’s like a game of “pick up sticks” where you slowly carefully remove one at a time and adjust slowly to the nicotine withdrawal.
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby muddyboots » Sun Nov 19, 2023 12:44 pm

Forgot to say, if smoking is a stress buster, getting help to manage the stress if necessary
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Re: How can I get my husband to give up smoking?

Postby campxyz » Mon Nov 20, 2023 8:00 am

i struggled to give up. hated the gums and sprays and patches. stop smoking clinic prescribed zyban and it was amazing! so easy to give up in a really short space of time. no horrible struggle, no need to vape or use other distractions. literally wiped the cravings from my memory and allowed me to hang out with smoking friends without going mad. haven’t smoked for almost two years now.
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