I try to do at least one load of laundry during the week. (More time for fam during the weekends.) There is even a setting whereby you can delay the washing machine to be done by the time you get home so it's not sitting wet all day. I also invested in a tumble dryer (even though I consider myself environmental!) but I did grow up in the States...
I also try to have about two weeks supply of all clothes things from toddler socks to clean clothes I can wear for work. This really relieves a bit of pressure to get laundry sorted.
I also get ironing collected and delivered.
Certainly have a cleaner if you can. This can cause its own stresses but helps create a focus of somewhat tidyness and order at at least one point during the week.
I try to get some me time at least once every three months. This can be getting my hair done. Enjoying sushi whilst reading a book. Things that I can't really do with any other family member.
I don't know what I did before food deliveries. I echo the point about Ocado. Their app is awesome. Very easy to use on the go as long as you have a wifi.
Alternating who does bed time routine helps as it means each night one of us cooks whilst the other does bed time. Also, getting a baby sitter just to go out to dinner locally is great. That gives you just you and partner time
It took me a few weeks before I really got my teeth back into work. My LO is 2 1/2 now and he went into nursery part time from 7 months and full time from 1 year. I would say it took me until he was about 2 until I really felt settled into work. (I think this also happened about the same time he was sick a lot less at nursery).
Give yourself time to find what balance means to you. I hope this will come in time for you. Also, each day changes. What works one week may not work the next. Also, I was very open to hear suggestions from my OH...