I’m 44 now and had my daughter when I was 40. I did IUI, then 3 rounds of IVF, which all failed... I finally fell pregnant naturally.
It was such a tough time, that feeling of being useless, why me, why can’t I get pregnant!!!! Both my husband and I had a myriad of tests and all came back as “normal”, that there was no reason to not get pregnant, so we were put into the “unexplained infertility” category which was even more frustrating! I did IUI at Lister Hospital and to be honest, it was pretty useless. The only thing I got out of that was a little training/prep for full on IVF. I personally would say don’t bother with IUI, waste of money. For IVF, I was lucky (if you can call it that!) to get the treatment on the NHS - we fulfilled all the requirements so we were eligible (non smokers, no previous children, of a certain age, etc.....). I did what they call “conventional IVF” where they basically try to get as many eggs as possible to give you the best chance of more than one succeeding in blastocyst stage. All 3 rounds failed for me.... then out of the blue, I got pregnant naturally, much to my surprise as we were planning on going again for IVF bUt a different kind.... if I had my time again, I wouldn’t choose the conventional IVF, I would definitely go with the gentler, more “natural” IVF which doesn’t pump you full of drugs, but works with your body. It’s not about quantity of eggs but rather quality of the eggs, so you end up taking less drugs for a shorter period of time (you also spend less!). I was looking into a place called CREATE Fertility which did exactly that. Worth investigating all IVF treatments to see what suits you.