A small problem I know but it ruins your week when people can be so breathtakingly inconsiderate – especially when you do them a favour!
Last week I was walking the dog on the Common early in the morning when a young boy (probably about 12 or so) whizzed past me on his bike and, 10 meters on, promptly lost control and bashed into a tree.He was shaken with a grazes to his arm and face (he was wearing a helmet thank goodness) but had gashed his lip which was bleeding profusely onto his t-shirt.
His mother then appeared with a toddler in a buggy and I offered some wet-wipes and tissues from my bag to mop him up a bit and stop the bleeding.The bike had a buckled wheel and would have to be carried rather than wheeled, since she told me they lived about half a mile away I offered to take the bike home in my car and gave her my mobile number to arrange to pick it up.
Also when we got to the car I remembered I had my son’s clean sports kit in the back and offered his polo shirt to the boy to put on because his t-shirt was muddy and bloodied. (I also asked whether we should call an ambulance but she insisted “He was fine” and he did seem to be so).
A week went by with no call.
Finally the mother phoned to ask if she could pick it up on Saturday – normally a busy day for me so I asked if she could come earlier – say 9.30 am?“No I go running in the morning” came the reply, “Can we make it 11.30?” ... a bit late for me and means most of my Saturday is waiting for her to turn up at her convenience but since I had nothing arranged I agreed.
11.30 came and went – nobody turned up or phoned – the 12.00 , then 12.15 by which time I phoned her but her phone went to voicemail.Finally she shows up at 12.45, an hour and fifteen minutes late – no apology – thanks me for helping her and son “Thank goodness you were there!” etc and hands me a plastic bag carrying the loaned shirt – damp, filthy , muddy and stinking and obviously unwashed – loads the bike and drives off.
As I said, a 1st world problem but am I right to be miffed at her inconsideration?I was taught that if someone does you a favour you go out of your way to cause then as little inconvenience as possible yet she
- Insisted on a pickup time that was to her liking allowing her to do what she wanted to
- Then wasted my time by being an hour and fifteen minutes late – no warning or apology
- Returned my son’s top in a disgusting state – she had a whole week to clean it - surely the very least she could do?
Sorry for the essay but would like to know NVNs attitude to this – and just to add she was no sloven, both her and her son well dressed and presented and for all the world like a nice, middle class family!