Wife sharing too much on social media

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dotcom
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Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby dotcom » Fri Aug 23, 2019 10:20 am

I am a new user to this site and hope that you can offer me some advice. My wife seems obsessed with sharing our life on social media.

We can't visit a restaurant or book a holiday without me and everyone we have ever met being tagged etc. Not only that but the sharing is very often of the 'humble brag' variety which I find very embarrassing. I do very well but have a brother who isn't quite so well off and I it makes me cringe when I see photos of our hotel rooms etc. 

I don't want to fall out with her over it but is it reasonable for me to ask her not to publicise our every move to the world.

Thanks for listening.
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby supergirl » Fri Aug 23, 2019 1:51 pm

Of course you are reasonable to ask her to either stop or to reduce it. If she is tagging you, she is disrespecting your right to a private life or to a more private life than her.

And of course she should respect your feelings.

You can unfriend her as well as you are obviously not using social media in the same way as her and that is ok.

I dont see how you could fell out with her about something so trivial. You ve got 2 different approach to it and thats ok.

I share more than my husband but a lot less than some of my friends, my husband asked me to stop tagging him and guess what i stopped and didnt get offended.

Talk to her.
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby SuzanAyaz » Sat Aug 24, 2019 10:08 am

Of course she shouldn’t get offended. To be honest I really don’t see the need in sharing all of these things. It invites jealousy and gives people far too much insight into your privacy than they need to have. I share nothing about my private life on social media because that’s exactly what it is... my private life!
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby Beancounter » Tue Aug 27, 2019 8:10 am

Invitation to burglars if people know you’re away. And those privacy things don’t always work.
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby K1999 » Tue Aug 27, 2019 12:39 pm

I do use social media but try to be as discreet as possible and always have to ask my kids before I post to make sure they are OK with it too (they are teenagers). Perhaps you could ask her not to tag all and sundry to each post (it really isn't necessary) and generally people don't tag someone unless they are in the photo, or have given their permission.  This might be a compromise?
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby Jellie75 » Wed Aug 28, 2019 9:28 am

It’s not unreasonable to request she stops tagging you/friends/family if they don’t wish to be and it’s also ok to ask that your private life be kept private. She should respect that and no doubt will if she is asked to do so in a calm and friendly manner.

I got a bit fed up with all the tagging/bragging posts and activated the function in FB whereby any post I am tagged isn’t automatically shared to my friends unless I approve it. I have many left unapproved! I think Mutual friends will see the post but any outside of those won’t. That might help?
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby Ratski » Mon Sep 02, 2019 8:10 am

Personally I would find a new wife it will only get worse when/if you have children.

Their entire childhoods documented on social media for all to see. If only they spent as much time talking and interacting with their kids as they do glued to their phones.
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby Allesley » Mon Sep 02, 2019 10:35 am

Sorry to hear this dotcom. It's clear that you've been thoughtful about your post and are really looking for tips on how to address this situation. 

I have no great wisdom here but perhaps you could wait until she uploads a new post this is clearly over the line and use that as an opportunity to have a loving but frank conversation about how you want to operate as a couple?
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Re: Wife sharing too much on social media

Postby TFP » Mon Sep 09, 2019 11:06 am

If nothing else, she should take care when it comes to holidays. Nothing screams 'please burgle me' like someone boasting online that they are: (a) relatively well off; and (b) currently hundreds/thousands of miles away from home for the next week or so.h
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