We've moved over from America (British dad, American mom) over the summer. Our adjustment has been easy for the most part, our children have LOVED being here and say they never want to leave. The only trouble is school. Our child attended an indoor/outdoor nursery program, very heavy on art/creative play/learning to be a good friend/emotional regulation with no academic push. So we hired a tutor over the summer to bring her up to speed. Shes incredibly bright, very curious and LOVES learning
We thought very carefully about what we wanted for our daughter for school. Gentle, nurturing, lots of exercise/sport, but something that pushed her to her edge academically. We decided on a very prominent school in between the commons after huge assurances this was the school for her, and now my little one, who is generally SO happy and SO confident is having anxiety attacks, says she has no friends (who was voted the most sociable child by every single person who meets her), and is really doubting her abilities.
The school is pushing math quizzes (she is 5 and in year 1), and my daughter is a very competitive child. She's admitted to looking at others papers to get her answers, is now doubting her own mind, and her confidence has really fallen. Ive reached out to the teacher multiple times, even sharing the information my little shared about cheating, and the teacher says my daughter has the ability and she doesnt believe she is cheating. This all feels like a cry for help.
When looking at her time table, it looks like that of a university student, with very little down time or creative time. Her school has admitted to pushing academics much harder in case of another lock down, which fair enough, but its taking its toll on our child.
I think in my heart, I know what she needs. A school that allows her to still be 5 (more play time, creative/dramatic/expressive), but that also pushes her enough academically to keep her fulfilling her potential and staying interested. We also dont want the academic gap to widen so much between her and her peers, but if she stays the course as it is now, she will absolutely despise school.
Does such a school exist? and what are our chances for getting in NOW? should I remove her from the school shes currently in? Hire a full time tutor? We have lined up some school tours but most are for the new year. I would love help <3