How long is normal to wait after a baby to become intimate Post Reply

[loveboden]

I’m hoping that someone can help answer a rather sensitive question. How long is normal after having a baby to not want to have sex?

After my first it took me a long time to want to become intimate again with my husband which caused some serious issues for us as he is very needy in that way. My second is due in Feb and I am worried that it I am going to feel the same. Just not sure if its normal to feel this way?

[bauble]

Giving birth can be a traumatic experience for many, both physically and emotionally and I think it takes as long as it takes unless the months get into double figures then perhaps there is something else going on.

Good luck with your new baby.

[muddyboots]

The answer is that beyond the recommended minimal
time for healing it’s whatever feels right for YOU and nobody else.
What’s right for you is what’s normal for you. Frankly your needy husband should not be putting you under pressure. Even if he doesn’t do it consciously he’s obviously affected you enough to worry about it and write on here.
Enjoy your pregnancy and don’t worry about this. Good luck with your second baby.
Tell him how you feel and he need to support you and deal with it ..... honestly...

[muddyboots]

It’s extremely intense to have a baby emotionally and physically. It’s totally normal not to feel like you have any more of you to give.
If you are breastfeeding it’s especially physical so the thought of more needs needed of you can be too much.
There is absolutely nothing wrong and beru normal to feel this way.
Some women feel totally opposite, it totally depends.
Don’t feel that you need to justify how you feel if you feel like this.
Good luck !