Does your son at Emanuel, Ibstock or Graveney play video games?

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Avocado
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Does your son at Emanuel, Ibstock or Graveney play video games?

Postby Avocado » Thu Mar 04, 2021 6:04 am

Does your son at Emanuel, Ibstock or Graveney play video games? Roughly what percentage of his class game and in which year?

Would also be interested in hearing about ANY secondary level schools where video gaming has a very low uptake.

Have any parents of teenage boys managed to keep them away from video games without the boy feeling left out/isolated from his friends?

My son is coming to the end of primary school and this is just one amongst a whole host of factors I want to consider before looking beyond. I know things may change by the time he reaches secondary level but would help to have an idea of how they socialise.

My son is currently very sporty and would spend all his free time playing sports if given the chance.
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Postby Moonlightdawn » Thu Mar 04, 2021 9:28 am

Really interested in this too. I have similar concerns for a sporty son and the perceived pressure to play and join video games whilst at secondary school. Dreading it a bit.
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Postby MonkeySee » Mon Mar 08, 2021 8:04 am

I was quite precious about video games too and only eased up when my son was in y6 but it was very restricted, 1 HR a week. Then lock down happened and that jumped to closer to 1 HR a day. Not ideal, but it's been the only way for him to socialize with friends so has had its place.

Worth considering that boys especially don't do playdates in secondary so even out of lock down games are a way to socialize. Private school will do lots of sports and clubs so he they aren't mutually exclusive
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Postby AKA » Mon Mar 08, 2021 9:01 am

My son is at secondary school and apart from a once a week session on minecraft with friends he doesn’t have video games. He uses my phone to play the game. We’ve never bought a console/ PS4 etc. There are plenty of other kids who don’t have them so it hasn’t been a big deal. Partly, we just aren’t as a family, that interested in video games so it kind of passed us by. I’d say there was a moment, when he was in his last year at primary, when everyone was talking about Fortnight when he did feel a little out of the loop but that was very much a passing phase. My son is in Y9 now and reads a lot and tbh school keeps him v busy.
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Postby EvenBetterAnnabel » Mon Mar 08, 2021 9:41 am

Playing video games is often seen as intellectually lazy but has been widely proven to strengthen a range of cognitive skills. 90% of those who are forbidden to play video games because of this prejudice are proven to grow up to hate their mothers 100% of the time. 

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Postby MagnoliaMum » Mon Mar 08, 2021 7:26 pm

I'm not sure anyone can really gauge what percentage of boys in a class game, as they tend to play in little pockets of friends; I wouldn't have a clue at my son's school generally (he's not in any of the 3 you mentioned). However I would say that any information will be out of date following the lockdown as that has been the primary way that boys have been able to socialise with each other, apart from walks, so it will have increased massively and probably over all schools.

My experience is that you shouldn't take the view that all video gaming is bad; that's like banning all television! Some programmes are violent or rubbish and should be avoided, some are educational, some are a bit trashy but everyone talks about them so you might feel left out if you don't watch them - it's the same with games. Some boys aren't really interested (my older boy will take or leave them) and some would play all day if you let them, like my younger one (yr 9). I've decided the best way to handle it is to take an interest in what he's doing and encourage him to make good choices on what he plays and when. In the boring days of lockdown, after finishing home-school and exercise, he's been playing Minecraft with a group of friends on a group-call; I've been impressed at their collaborations on amazing buildings, the creativity and the fun they've managed to have remotely with each other. I wish it wasn't more screen time, but it's kept him sane and in touch with his friends. They spurn anything that costs money and only play in groups where they know the people in real life.

You don't need to have playstations or other equipment; if your son wants to play games, he'll do so on his phone or the computer he'll need in secondary school. So I would be wary of being negative or forbidding this normal part of boys' lives; it will make it far more attractive if he wants to rebel! If he loves sports, then pick a school which will give him lots of opportunities for these and making like-minded friends and they won't have much time to play any video games then anyway.
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Postby Bluejean70 » Mon Mar 08, 2021 9:03 pm

Gaming hours.....
Yr10 weekday = 4hrs, Yr10 weekend per day = 12plus hours (Winter 16+ hours per day)
Yr11 weekday = 5hrs, Yr11 weekend = 12 plus hours (Winter 16+ hours per day)
In all honesty, I kid myself, it is probably more than this.
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Postby misty32 » Mon Mar 15, 2021 11:33 am

Hi, I dont think you can really rate a school by its video gaming activity to be honest, it's about how much they are left to get away with at home.
My son is Y7 at one of the three you mentioned. The big difference between him and his twin sister is during lockdown my daughter chatted for 3hrs plus at a time with her friends over Zoom about books, movies, bedroom decorations etc. 
My son tried a few times to call his friends but all boys want to do is chat over video games so it is a reality that your son will come across it. Their conversation about books and the latest footie scores is done in 2 minutes. Saying that, now he probably plays for 1 hour Saturday and Sunday, he is too busy during the week and to be honest, gets tired quickly of it. He has a PS4 and it's in the living room so I can hear how the conversations go and life is going on around him. I hear a lot of cooperating towards a mutual goal and tbh never had an issue. I am also relaxed as Y7 is when they are making new friends and I do not want him known as the boy who can't play at school.
I think it has a lot to do with how much rope they are given at home. My son knows when I tell him to get off, I mean it. Just don't leave him to play on it for hours alone in his bedroom but he sounds as if he wouldnt want that anyway.
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Postby CheekychappieMum » Sun Mar 21, 2021 10:43 pm

My son is in Yr 8 and has 0 video games or mobile phone. In yr 6 and 7 he did feel alienated at times due to not playing fortnite with many peers. However, we enriched his life with other "toys" and activities as opposed to banning them with no substitute. It is totally true that many boys do connect via video games and in an ideal world it would be great to have them and limit their use to 30 mins max on maybe 3 school nights and 1-2 hrs on weekends. However, we decided not to buy any because he has an addictive personality.  He is now in yr 8. The website, Screenagers has helped us come up with amazing present ideas to substitute them. Eg a DJ mixing console he can use with friends (post covid), karaoke machine, Paladrone electric shock game, laser guns (brilliant at night), STEM construction kits, solar panel kits for making things, MP4 and wireless headphones as he is v much into music, outdoor tent, telescope plus a lot of outdoor camping gear for Scouts trips and sports paraphernalia for his hobbies. In addition to regular novels (he reads a bit but not much) he has subscriptions to magazines and has rec´d interesting niche non-fiction books he can reference and dip into. I have seen that in actual fact, resilient, grounded boys have just as a good a social life without video games as those with. 
 
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