My son is in Yr 8 and has 0 video games or mobile phone. In yr 6 and 7 he did feel alienated at times due to not playing fortnite with many peers. However, we enriched his life with other "toys" and activities as opposed to banning them with no substitute. It is totally true that many boys do connect via video games and in an ideal world it would be great to have them and limit their use to 30 mins max on maybe 3 school nights and 1-2 hrs on weekends. However, we decided not to buy any because he has an addictive personality. He is now in yr 8. The website, Screenagers has helped us come up with amazing present ideas to substitute them. Eg a DJ mixing console he can use with friends (post covid), karaoke machine, Paladrone electric shock game, laser guns (brilliant at night), STEM construction kits, solar panel kits for making things, MP4 and wireless headphones as he is v much into music, outdoor tent, telescope plus a lot of outdoor camping gear for Scouts trips and sports paraphernalia for his hobbies. In addition to regular novels (he reads a bit but not much) he has subscriptions to magazines and has rec´d interesting niche non-fiction books he can reference and dip into. I have seen that in actual fact, resilient, grounded boys have just as a good a social life without video games as those with.