My elderly mother has had a spate of being in and out of hospital since the start of the year. My brother refuses to get involved in anything to do with helping the situation. He seems to expect me to do everything, drop things at hospital, be there when she is discharged, organise practical things in her home etc. None of this I resent doing, she's my mother but I do feel that he should help, especially as I feel this we are in this for the long haul. We both have careers and young families to juggle. He just bats things in my direction and plays the work card. He is generous, arrives with flowers, books etc. which of course my mother loves but how do I get him to share the load with out a big falling out which is not what either of my parents need at this stressful time.