Live in nanny in seperate annex- partners?

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Sausagedoggieee
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Live in nanny in seperate annex- partners?

Postby Sausagedoggieee » Sat Jul 10, 2021 3:28 pm

I haven't even got the role yet but i have seen an advert and applied for a position where I'd be a live in nanny in a country side role. Duties include care of horses and chickens so I am guessing very rural, age of children is what I prefer, days and hours seem great... It is basically my dream job and i just had to apply for the position.

Reality has now hit me unfortunately. Me and my partner live together currently... 95 miles away from where this job is. He is happy at his job and only just started there. 

If (and only if) I get this role how would I approach asking if he could move into the annexe with me? I would never consider this if it wasn't a separate accommodation that is being offered, I wouldn't feel comfortable having him interacting with the family etc in their own home. Unfortunately on the live in salary we couldn't afford to rent anywhere in the area for him to live in as he doesnt have a job there, we would never pass the affordability check. He would be giving up his job for me to take this position and hoping to find something nearby. I wouldn't want to conceal the intentions of him having to come live here to for me to take the job from the family. I want to be honest and upfront but delicately put it.

What do you think of him staying in the annexe with me? If you were the family would you agree to this?
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Postby justfornow » Sat Jul 10, 2021 6:18 pm

Does he want to give up his job? You say he’s happy and only just started, he might not be able to leave straight away. Also, without knowing what your partner does, would he be able to find another job easily or would you be the sole earner while you get settled, and if so, would this be feasible for you?

I think it’s fair to ask the family during the interview process, but for them it might be something that negatively sets you apart from another candidate. Also, do you know how long this would be for, a year, more? It might be difficult for you both to set up your lives if it doesn’t have long term potential.

A lot to think through, best of luck with the job and the move if that’s what you all decide is the best option!
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Postby gemima » Thu Mar 23, 2023 3:33 pm

Hello,
My opinion is that employers need to flexible.  You have a life outside of work and if there is space, of course he should be able to live with you!  Why not?  Just explain nicely how much it is your ideal job and that you are considering your partner moving too, and could you ask about the living options?
Good Luck! (If they say no, btw, they would not be nice to work for).

My nanny had a child of age 8 or 9 when she was with us (in a nanny share) and I realised how scared she was to ask me if in her time with my child every now and then she could collect her son from school.  I soon realised this was a problem for her  - and an expensive one -  so I said a great big YES.  It helped her and it helped my daughter to socialise with a much older boy outside of her nanny share.  It was good all round.
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