my daughter began exhibiting anxiety at school pick up time when she was eleven years old, which progressed into her trying to sneak into my bed in the middle of the night - every night. after trying to work through this with her teachers, i decided to take her to my gp. she was immediately assessed for ocd, and started seeing a child therapist soon after. i really don't want to frighten you, but my daughter's anxiety was severe enough that she did not sleep alone anywhere until she was 23 years old.
this was a long time ago - she is now 33, a doctor, married and pregnant with her first child. but she struggled with the ocd for a long time. the therapy now is much more advanced, and much more research has been done on the condition. i wish i knew more about it when she was young - i probably would have gotten her some help earlier. taking your daughter to your gp can't hurt - she may not have ocd - but if she does, getting her help as soon as possible is essential. my heart goes out to you, this is a difficult time. but in the long run, the therapy will help your daughter find her strengths. t