Guewt wrote: ↑
Tue Jan 04, 2022 7:28 am
I’d separate and choose your lifestyle
This will come up later and be a problem
It’s more important for you and you both have very different priorities in terms of what’s important
I’ve been down this route and my wife preferred her lifestyle over everything else.
Most women who live in this area will marry for lifestyle though…hence most spouses work in banking - way the world is
Guewt, I dont know who your friends are but I know many women working in Finance and many more working in Law earning the money they need to sustain their expensive lifestyles (not to mention female doctors, business owners...). Your undertone is misogynistic.
Many women marry older men who work in banking to have a nice lifestyle. Many men work in banking to marry younger pretty and posher women and latch on to their lifestyle. Many younger men marry older rich women to get their lifestyle. Both men an women often marry for love, some other times they marry for something else. Very often I have seen the men marrying for looks, status.... Get out a bit...you just sound resentful. Maybe you married above your league and you couldnt maintain it?
Oh, and those wealthy women are too busy to post here...
To the original post
from hellogoodbye: agree with the others. Sit down and do the numbers. If he is the main income provider it is not nice to feel you cannot change jobs if you are not happy because it could upset the finances if things don't go well. Too much pressure which causes anxiety and stress...
I think your parents should help if they are wealthy and they want to, specially if they are already helping your siblings. Older generations have far too much wealth compared to younger ones with their gold plated final salary pension (which they locked younger workers out of), their free university, cheaper housing when they were younger...). In my opinion younger generations are being taken for a ride...
A 'cute' way for your parents to help would be contributing to their grandchildren private education. They could just say it is their way to pass on their wealth and save on inheritance tax. That way it is a legacy they are leaving for their grandkids and not strictly giving it to you? I would talk to your parents first to be on the same page. Good luck and enjoy life!