Sensitive topic indeed, and like others I'm intrigued, and also impressed, by all the thoughtful replies.
I also find it kind of crazy how still, in 2022, you see cafes filled up with women during schooldays, school Whatsapp groups are dominated by men, and even at social outings the men and women still coalesce into separate groups. I'm not as outraged as I was when I was a few years younger but it is still such a curious (retrograde) phenomenon. Now I can appreciate that it's a long arc of history and traditional gender roles/power dynamics are terribly sticky.
I'm glad some husbands have piped up as I think there is a lot of anger and resentment directed their way, both individually and societally, but not much open response. I do think that women sometimes don't necessarily appreciate the stress and graft of their husbands' jobs, just like men don't appreciate theirs, and that, as noted, some women find it really difficult to let go of tight control of the domestic domain.
I would 110% second that 'unpaid work in the home' is the absolute glue of society and the fact that it doesn't have the status or compensation of paid work is a massive distortion in the economy. (Recently listened to this interesting podcast on the topic https://www.tortoisemedia.com/audio/the ... on-strike/
- likely similar to the BBC short film!)
I would also point out that society doesn't exactly make things easier for parents. I started a service - a parent calendar assistant called Lifemin (www.lifeminco.com
) - that reads school and activity emails and newsletters and diarises all the important dates, to-do's and deadlines in *all* parents'/carers' calendars and inbox.
It's just one piece of the puzzle - an example of the admin that constantly rains down on families, and tends to fall to the female side of the partnership.