Dear Btw79, I’m so sorry your daughter feels that way about school. As much as I think most schools in London offer an amazing standard of teaching, the pressure due to the selective independent secondary school entry process is something every child/parent could do without. I‘m not British either and this division into bright/less bright really caught me by surprise. I have also worked in a local nursery for a few years and know how competitive schools around here can get.
Luckily, we found lovely Dolphin primary school on Northcote Rd for our 2 sons. All the staff is very warm and caring, the teaching is superb and the children are given a wide range of opportunities to shine (music, art, DT day, sports, kindness, effort in class, academic success etc). This may all sound very fluffy but my older son has started at King‘s College School in Wimbledon last year. He was always middle of the range when starting in reception at Dolphin, by no means a natural top of the class boy, but got into KCS without tutoring or undue pressure executed by Dolphin. Instead, they instilled a love for learning, quiet confidence in his abilities and an interest in the world around him as well as opportunities to play the sports he loves so much. Because Dolphin is one of the smaller schools every child gets the chance to shine in their own way, participate in sports matches, class assemblies, school council etc., which rounds up a very healthy, holistic approach to teaching.
My younger son is currently in Y6 at Dolphin, not naturally confident at all but the happiest boy when it comes to going to school!