Postby honey fig » Mon Mar 22, 2021 6:52 am
I am SO SORRY for what you must be going through. The pain must be unbearable. Do reach out to a friend of family member, regardless of how you might fear them remembering this 'down' the line. Also if you have the means try a councillor so you don't bear the pain and let it grow to rage. You should talk about this with someone. Especially since you have children to keep your cool and calm to.
I know many couples are able to work this through and I am quite positively certain some men never visit the idea of cheating ever again. However I don't think anyone deserves this amount of pain and deceit. And even if the person is forgiven I don't always think the relationship will be healthy. However only you can decide what life you want from this day forward. No woman or man should feel that they settle, or diminish themselves thinking they are not enough. You are enough and what your husband did is wrong regardless of what his thought process was, where or who he was with. I don't see how this is even relevant to whether you are to work this through or not.
You must trust your heart and look at your future and decide.
If you decide to keep by him think about the impression on the children. You would truly need to work this past as a team and not let your children know that it's ok to cheat on mummy, mum will just hold on to the grudge and never fully be happy but we kept together for the children's sake. This is not the goal. The goal should not be to keep together for the children.
Don't rush into anything at the moment, remember to think about YOURSELF at this moment. A range of emotions will come dribbling down and you must be fully conscious to make sound decisions involving your own future and your childrens future.
I wish you the best of luck, remember you can do this! You will be ok!
