Recently, and on very rare occasions, when my daughter (who's 8) gets upset or frustrated (e.g. not getting her own way about something), she has started showing signs of trying to hurt herself. it doesn't last long, she normally blows up and calms down very quickly.
About 6 months ago, she stared pulling her at her hair when she got frustrated, which I tried to ignore to see if she'd stop it, not wanting to draw attention to it.
More recently she started obviously trying to show me that she's hurting herself (like purposefully pulling up her leggings, looking at me with a very angry / frustrated face and scratching at her legs purposefully, from ankle to knee. I don't think it really hurts - no marks remain afterwards - but the look on her face says she wants to hurt herself and wants me to know she wants to hurt herself). On these occasions, I have reacted, cuddling her and saying something like 'please don't hurt yourself honey', which calmed her, though even if I hadn't reacted, it's all blown over very quickly (i.e. once she's vented her frustration, she calms down quickly).
She now seems to do the scratching thing with slightly more frequency (though it's still only happening once a week maximum) so I don't know if I've done the wrong thing by bringing giving her attention when she does it?
Anyone come across this sort of behaviour before and know what you might do about it? I'm not sure if bringing it to attention (or the attention of a child physiologist or something) is right thing to do or not as it's really not very frequent, but I know the behaviour is unusual.
has anyone come across this with their own child of a similar age? appreciate any advice.