this from my perspective and you can draw whatever conclusions sound good to you from it....
I don't drink. never have, never will. For religious reasons and because alcohol is bad for me (so is sugar but I love cake and ice cream in great moderation
Hence, I only date guys from my denomination (Christian) with the same basic beliefs and standards as mine. As I don't want to make anyone stop poisoning himself . However, the reason I do that is because if/when I get married and have kids I don't want alcohol (and other addictive substances) present in my house around my kids. This could be why your husband doesn't want you to drink again. If you do there is a choice for you kids to do it too when they become teenagers or - as I have been a witness - long before that. And if you only drink outside your home and then preach (you or your husband) to your kids that drinking is bad for you, that would be like a chain smoker punishing their kids when caught smoking... i.e. hypocritical.
That's my take on your husband's point of view... It should be up to you but whether you've changed or not during the last 10 years you initially agreed to not drink which he probably shouldn't have enforced on you. Alas, he did and you did. So, I'm guessing for your husband it might come down to wine, or marriage... And he may make you choose... He sounds like a no-negociation type of dude...
I hope that marginally helps you in your dilemma.