Hi moo moo 2, I understand your concerns but in order to get a feel for the kind of support the local private secondary schools can offer, I would visit and speak to the schools rather than rely on what you have been told informally. I don't have any experience of a child with ADHD but with 4 children in the family, with very different personalities, I do have quite a bit of experience of the local private secondary schools as well as boarding school. Our youngest is at Dulwich College and they have amazing (full time) SEN support and they offer places to bright boys with a range of issues (ADHD, Aspergers, dyslexia, dyspraxia.....). My son had a boy with ADHD in his form and he currently participates in a sport, at a high level, with a boy who has Aspergers- it's no big deal to my son and it seems that the boys accept each other as they are. I've recommended Dulwich on other similar posts because what is really great about DC is that they don't want "cookie cutter" boys, but treat each boy individually and seem to bring out the best in each boy. I would also have a look at Emanuel as I have heard similar positive things about the support given at that school and I know that it is an incredibly welcoming and friendly school. Good luck with your search!